Thursday, April 20, 2017

Renovations: New Look, New Name, Now What?


 

If I were a big drinker, I’d open up a beer right about now. My busy time of year is finally over. No more crazy hours at work and I am so freaking happy. I worked Monday, and then handed my boss a vacation request. I'm toast. As I type this, I’m sitting in a hotel room after my traffic-filled drive so I can get my Botox injections for my migraines tomorrow, then I’ll head back home and relax the rest of the week.Yeah baby!

Since I had some spare time in the hotel room and it was too noisy to write (they’re renovating), I decided to tweak my blog again. I also renamed it and bought the domain name, “Helping Partners Of Sex Addicts Heal.”

I don’t quite know what I’m going to do with it yet, I only know that…and bear with me here...I woke up last week knowing it was something I needed to do. I prayed on it for a few days and came back with the same answer: get a new domain name.

I talked to Devin about it, and he asked why I had named my blog such an odd name to begin with and I had to admit it was fear. Fear of being found again by his affair partner. Fear our true identities would be discovered. Fear of failure. His answer, “I thought you started this new [healthy] blog as a way to help people? How are they supposed to find you under your current blog’s name?”

Good question. And since he’s the one who has the most to fear, since I no longer worry about any of his affair partner’s, and he’s okay with me renaming the blog and getting the new domain as a way to be found on Google, well then, I had no reason not to do it.

Where do I go from here? I don’t know. Do I shut down this blog and start all over again? I don’t think so. I’ve been here a long time and it was hard enough getting the followers I have, which isn't many. The new domain name redirects here so I guess that’s good.

If anyone has any thoughts or suggestions, please let me know. That goes for the layout of the place too.

Have your fears stopped you from doing anything?

30 comments:

  1. I wouldn't shut this blog down unless there was a way to transfer your past posts cause I think those are very helpful to people going through this. And yes my fears of failure stop me from trying to really make a go of it selling my jewelry and photos.

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    1. That's one of my biggest concerns; losing all my posts from the last four years. I guess I could slowly transfer from all over. I mean it would take a ton of work though. Whew! I have to say, JoJo, I really feel that your jewelry and photos would sell. Look how well they do at craft shows!

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    1. Thank you, Debra. Now I just need to figure out what that new direction will be. haha

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  3. Hi Elsie - don't make work for yourself ... but well done on creating the new site. Why not start from the beginning in a generic sense - using your knowledge ... and just progress that way - see where the request to help comes from ... good for you - cheers Hilary

    http://positiveletters.blogspot.co.uk/2017/04/q-is-for-quirky-quizzy-facts-and-quaggas.html

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    1. I don't mind a little work if it means I can help others. At the same, I don't want to spend twenty hours on it either. I'll have to do some thinking on it, a bit more research, and see where it leads me. :)

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  4. Check into squarespace as your hosting platform. It has a way to transfer all of your posts over.

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    1. Thanks, Andrew. I've got their website pulled up and will do some research on it today.

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  5. That you going all mediation on the beach? Can you focus in a giant litterbox like that? lol

    3rd blog for you? Geez, go through blogs like underwear. Where's the one eye? Still afraid to show it?

    If looking to help it sure sounds like the best way indeed. Gives you more standing in google than before. Unless you want mocking turtle lovers to find you.

    Fear? Pffft the cat shares all, not afraid of nothing at our hall.

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    1. Nah, that's not me. I'm not that dedicated to yoga to do it on a beach. I have to admit, I haven't done yoga in several long months...but, I am getting back into it now that work is settling back down again.

      Actually, it would be my fourth blog! My first was curse filled and negative (you remember haha) so I closed it. The second was this one, the third was Elsie is Writing but I closed it because it was unnecessary, and now this new one - maybe.

      Do people mock turtles? That's really rude. And how do have no fear? That's a foreign concept to me.

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  6. I wondered when that name showed up who it was! That is smart to get a domain name. Yes, Squarespace is a great hosting site. Both of my websites are with them.

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    1. I'm so glad you stopped by to see who it was, Diane. One of my fears is that I'll lose the few followers I have with the name change. I'm looking forward to checking out Squarespace today to see what they have to offer.

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  7. I love your new look and upgrade in transparency. No other change is needed, I say. You've been helping partners of sex addicts and the rest of us all along. Keep going, with this renewed clear focus. Love you, my friend.

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    1. That's a great way to say it, Robyn: transparency. I'm surprised I didn't think of it myself seeing how it's such a big word in our house. We say we need to be open, honest, and transparent with each other. Thank you, love you too.

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  8. What Andrew said. There's ways to transfer over all of your posts. I don't know how to do that off the top of my head, but I know you can.

    (So helpful, I know)

    I'm excited to see the direction you take this new blogging venture, and I dig the name! You'd better start liking beer, because we're about to toast to your new domain name.

    (It's cool, we'll drink without you. We were going to drink anyway)

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    1. I'm hopeful that I can transfer my posts over. That would be awesome. I'm excited too. A tad nervous, but I think it'll all work out. I truly can't help anyone if I can't be found.

      I used to drink beer when I was in high school, but that was only because it was all we could get. I hated the taste. It's rare that'll I drink, and when I do, I drink fru fru drinks, like sea breeze or Mike's Hard lemonade. I know, I'm such a girl!

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  9. You could keep the blog and just use the domain name. My blog is my domain.
    Glad you are just going for it now.

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    1. Yes, that is what I was going to suggest. Makes the most sense and you won't lose what you've already built.

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    2. I'll have to look up how I can do that on Blogger. That would be cheaper. Then I'd just have to tell GoDaddy to swap out how they have my domain pointing from Helping Partners to Mock Turtle to Mock Turtle to Helping Partners. I think.

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    3. I'm not sure but I just looked under settings and that's where I can add mine. I have domain but I might be moving all the way away from blogger, not sure yet. But it's there and if you want to keep everyone, it's a great option.

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    4. I think you're right. That's what I have it doing right now. It's set up to redirect from themockturtlesmusings.blogspot.com to www.mockturtlemusings.com. I think if I just change it to the new domain, call GoDaddy to swap them out, I'll be okay.

      I considered moving away from Blogger either last year or the year before and going over to WordPress, but never did it. I like how easy the Blogger interface is. Why are you thinking of moving away from it?

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    5. I don't care for how google is tied into everything. But I'm still not sure. I'd like though to be able to do videos without solely relying on google products.

      Sounds like you're on your way to getting the new address sorted. Very cool.

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  10. I admire your dedication and spirit in trying to keep others from going so far down the road you did. Somewhere out there is someone who desperately needs your message, who will be able to find you easier now. Strive on!

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    1. Thank you, Chris. That's my goal. I went down the rabbit hole of despair and it took way too long for me to crawl my way out. I don't want others to have to go through that pain too. It sucked.

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  11. Last year when I made took the plunge and started a new blog I was at first a little scared. I wondered, OMG what would people think? I wondered if they read the header and thought, "An Addiction Blog? or Did that just say heroin?" I was scared at first. I needed to write it all out my head and at the same time I wanted to help others still stuck in the stigma of isolation or loneliness. I get a lot of Debby Downer email about my blog. I once took offense when a political leader here made a statement about my blog and called me That Mommy Bloggy Lady. I keep the goals for this blog simple and speak the truth about this addiction. I am always so afraid I will give the wrong information based on my feelings at the moment. I have a few friends who help keep me in line as far as staying on track in the writing. I have one mother hen friend who is afraid that I put too much information out about my son. Its because I want readers to know they aren't alone. If I didn't speak about my son I would be just another addiction blog passing a long information. One of the biggies is the hopes of breaking the stigma around heroin addiction. I want others to know they are not alone. While they may be afraid to speak out at the moment they have a calm blog to read and find information. I love the information you give relating to addiction. You are honest and upfront while facing battles. A hard place to be. Can't wait to read more on your new blog front. Great title btw!

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    1. This resonated deeply with me. Thank you for sharing it with me. Especially this:

      "One of the biggies is the hopes of breaking the stigma around heroin addiction. I want others to know they are not alone."

      That's my main goal too. I want people to find a healthy place. One that provides hope. I also fear that I'm trying to come off as an expert when I'm not. I'm a person who has been there, done that. That's it.

      I'm so glad you have a good support base surrounding, one that can help keep you grounded and also help when you get emails from negative people. That must be such a huge help.

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  12. It took me 11 years to reveal my true identity to the blogverse, I guess thats fear

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    1. I often wonder if there will ever be a time when I'll be as brave as you and reveal my true identity. I doubt it. I'm glad you overcame your fear and shared yours. Eleven years of blogging? Wow! That's amazing!

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  13. Way to go, changing the name and helping others I think how you blog about such a difficult and for many somewhat embarrassing addiction is amazing, I have learnt so much about sex addiction from your blog, you my friend are amazing I hope you realise that

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    1. Thank you, Jo-Anne. You're very kind. I'm happy to hear I've been able to help you learn about the addiction. Your words humble me.

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