Sunday, May 8, 2016

The Power of Positive Self-Talk


There is quite an age gap between myself and my brother so it’s only natural that he provided me with lots of pearls of wisdom along the way…which I promptly rolled my eyes at but secretly stored away for use later in life.

One of those gems was to write down the things I wanted for myself. Kinda like a wish list of goals. He said if I read it aloud each day, the more realistic they’d become. Don’t tell him (cause I’d never hear the end of it), but he’s right. (Love you, Teddy!)

It’s the power of positive self-talk.

It’s so easy to allow negative thoughts to take over. To run us down and make us feel miserable about ourselves. Why is that?

But if we remind ourselves of all the good things we have by writing a gratitude list, and then read that list each and every morning, we’ll have a better day. We’ll remember that things really aren’t as bad as they seem. There can be a silver lining if we look close enough. Something to be grateful for.

If we write down our best qualities and stop focusing on our flaws, and read it before we start our newest project at work or at home, we’ll remember how gifted we are. There are hidden treasures of talents within us just waiting to be discovered.

We can do the same thing for our partners. If you’re in a relationship with an addict and things have hit a rough patch, write down the reasons you fell in love with them…take the addiction out of the equation for a few minutes…and focus on the positive. It helps to remember they’re more than their addiction sometimes.

Do you have a gratitude list? Do you tend to do positive self-talk or negative self-talk?




28 comments:

  1. Hi Elise - it is so true ... and if we focus on the positve ... we tend to get on with things, get them done and move onwards and upwards ... good for you .. cheers Hilary

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    1. And Happy Mother's Day ... forgot that important bit ... all the best - H

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    2. I agree, Hilary. When we dwell on the negative, we tend to get stuck in the negative and not able to heal or move forward from it. Happy Mother's Day to you too! Thank you!

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  3. Remembering the good will get us through the bad.
    And yes, happy Mother's Day!
    (Sorry, typo in first comment. And those really bug me.)

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    1. No worries, I'm sure I've left dozens of typos in comments along the way - including on my own blog :)

      I agree, Alex. I think it can get us through some dark times.

      Thank you for the Mother's Day wishes too!

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  4. I keep a gratitude journal but I only update it once every few weeks. I don't know what positive self talk is. I've been putting myself down since I was a little kid cause all I ever heard was criticism and I just never felt good enough. So all I ever do is put myself down, and I have a hard time believing people when they say nice things about me.

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    1. It's good to hear that you're doing a gratitude journal, JoJo. I can relate to being criticized as a kid. When I was a teen, my mom said some brutal things to me. It's what made me turn to drugs as a way to numb the pain. It took a long, long time to overcome those negative feelings and self doubts about myself. My next post, I'll be talking about my affirmation cards - those helped me realize I was worth something. I was valuable and so are you. Hugs, my friend.

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  5. That is a good way to keep on top of things and the spirits high. I'm just crazy so that helps keep the negative crap away. Just keeps on pushing the cat through the bad at our pad.

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    1. You know what, Pat, you must be crazy because any sane person can't generate that many books AND that many blogs post...not to mention how far out in advance you are. So yeah, you are insane :)

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  6. I'm a big believer in positive self-talk and positive affirmations to retrain the mind away from harmful or self-destructive things we've been taught as children. It takes MUCH repetition, patience and perseverance, however. But eventually it becomes natural to think in the new, positive, life-affirming way. It is SO worth it in the long run!

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    1. You're so right, Debra, on so much you said. Some of the things I heard as a kid still lingers and feeds my self-doubt to this day. I reach for my affirmation cards for a boost when I need them. I'll be talking about them next week. They really helped and yes, it took a TON of repetition. A TON.

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  7. I'm afraid not but I do have a models wish list!

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  8. That's exactly what I teach in my seminars. Focus on the good and what you do right. Focus on the positive. You'll go farther in life that way.

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    1. That's a fantastic thing to teach, Diane. Keep our minds focused on the good to make the good happen, I think it really works.

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  9. Hope you had a lovely mom's day Elsie !
    I really try to think in possitive things dear and live day by day xoxoxoxo

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    1. I really did. I enjoyed time with the kids...through the power of technology :) Hope you did too!

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  10. Wow, this is really interesting to me because I'm huge into positive self-talk. I psyche myself up over everything, just to tell myself I CAN do it. But I don't do that with the wife. I need to. She could use some pumping up, too, I'm sure.

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    1. I didn't know that, Bryan, that's cool to hear. I think those around us can always use a good "pep" talk now and then. When we do FANOS, one of our favorite parts is the affirmations because it includes so many positive words about the other.

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  11. No I don't but really I should, I try to say positive things to myself about myself but there are days when it is hard and I struggle to find anything positive about myself.

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    1. It can be hard to find positive things about ourselves on some days but never forget what a great and wonderful mom and grandma you are Jo-Anne!! You rock!

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  12. I believe in the power of self-talk & that gratitude journal is inspiring ~ I am trying everyday, to be good and kind to myself and to others ~ Enjoy the week ~ Happy Mother's day (belated) ~

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    1. I can definitely see you keeping a gratitude journal and being positive through your poetry, it seems right up your alley, Grace. Have a fantastic weekend!

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  13. I do self talk allll the time. It usually is me saying "stop it. You're being crazy." Or "stop obessing or thinking about that" in which case I would replace them with positive thoughts. Your brother is one smart cookie!!! Lol

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    1. It's good you're replacing the negative talk with positive talk. I get stuck in negative self-talk when I write and have to redirect myself. Yeah, my brother is one cool guy...but don't tell him I said so :)

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  14. Hi Elsie,

    What an interesting, thoughtful post, my kind friend.

    You have touched upon a subject that is often in my mind. What I try to reinforce is that I do my best to live life with realistic positive anticipation rather than negative speculation. I tell my "inner critic" that it tells lies.

    Happy belated Mother's Day, North American version :)

    Gary

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    1. Hi Gary,

      You're really going to love my post for today. I hope you'll get a chance to see it because your inner critic is a big fat liar! I'm saddened to read that you're still struggling with your health. I'm sending healing vibes your way. Thanks for the Mother's Day wishes.

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