Friday, April 29, 2016

Slowly Remerging

Hello my blogging buddies. I hope you've all been doing well and those of you that are participating in the A-Z Challenge aren't too exhausted and have been having lots of fun and made plenty of new connections.

I've had a rough few weeks so needed to take a break from the blogging world and do some self-care. My migraines got a bit out of hand and work was slammed. I was exhausted by the time I got home and didn't have the energy to blog. I'm just now beginning to feel like myself again and ready to remerge from the cocoon of my comfy chair.

Thankfully, the recent increase in migraines coincided with a visit to my migraine specialist so she hooked me up with a round of powerful steroids, an increase in my botox injections, and an adjustment to my migraine preventative, so I'm hopeful things are headed in the right direction once again.

On another positive note, my job will also be keep me an extra day through the rest of the year so...I think I'll have to keep my blogging schedule the way it is now. I'll post either on Fridays or over the weekend. No more Monday posts for this chick.

I saw this on Facebook a few weeks ago and it really resonated with me:


I felt it spoke volumes of truth about marriage/partnership. No one in this world knows you the way your spouse or partner does. They see you at your best and they see you at your worst. If they are truly meant to be your partner in life, they will see you through the end and walk beside you through it all. They will not envy your achievements but share your joy. They will not judge your faults but help you find your way through to betterment. They will hold your hand while sitting beside you on the couch, walking through the mall, or sitting across from you at the dinner table...but most of all, they will lend a hand through life. 

So while marriage is not always beautiful, it is one of the most beautiful things that can happen to you when you've found the right person to share it with and I hope you all have or will soon because we all deserve it.

What is your favorite thing about marriage/partnership? What is your least favorite thing? If you're not with someone, what do you hope to find or avoid in a partner?



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  1. Hope that takes care of the migraines!
    It's true your spouse sees the best and worst and knows you like no one else does.
    Favorite thing? Guaranteed frequent sex. Just kidding! Well, not really, that is a good thing. But the best thing is my wife is my best friend. Coming home to her is coming home to the safety of my castle.

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    1. Fingers crossed it does. I have one today so, meh, but that's because of the weather and poor sleep last night more than anything else. Ah, only guaranteed frequent sex if you're getting along, Alex. hehe. I agree, being married to my best friend is the best part.

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  2. Had to slip the migraines in huh? Been too long? lol hopefully they go away...the cat doesn't need a migraine post times 2. Did I just type that? whoops lol

    Very true, you see the best and the worst. Not all kittens and rainbows. I'm still as single as can be, so no hand holding for me haha as long as they aren't a slob though, me and my ocd are good.

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    1. It has been far too long since a migraine post has graced my bay, cat. Remember the days of poems for our friend dear ol' Dan. Wonder what ever happened to him? Thanks for the well wishes, they are appreciated.

      Your luck, Pat, you'll fall in love with a dog person who is a secret hoarder. haha!

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    2. lmao the dogs are fine, but with hoarders, I draw the line.

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  3. I'm so sorry your migraines have been so bad! :( I saw that marriage meme too on Facebook and it's so true. My fave thing about my current (and last) marriage is that my husband is trustworthy and loyal and he loves me so much. He's been very good for my self esteem. My least fave thing is fighting which I try really hard not to. I hate fighting and conflict.

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    1. Thank you, JoJo. The migraines are getting better, thankfully. I'm so glad you two found each other - and how cool your love story is. One of my favorites. I love that he has built up your self-esteem and self worth. That's exactly what your spouse is meant to do. Build you up, not tear you down. Perfect! Yeah, the fighting sucks but it's hard not fight every so often when you live with someone 24/7.

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  4. I'm sorry the migraines have kept you away.

    I love that someone is always there for you, giving you support, security, and encouragement.

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    1. Thank you, Diane. Thankfully, I'm on the mend. I love having my husband's support and love and love being able to provide that for him too.

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  5. Glad to hear you're starting to feel better again. Take it as slow and easy as you can, Elsie!

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    1. Me too, Debra, me too :) Thanks, I appreciate it, very much!! And yes, slow and steady for sure!

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  6. I'm sorry your migraines have flared up again. (I know the feeling.) Hang in there. As you de-stress all those things you're doing will work better and you'll feel much better.

    That statement on marriage. Yeah, I think that is absolutely true. You do see the best and worst. I think that's why it's critical in the end you just flat-out like that person more than anyone else.

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    1. Hi Robin! Ugh, I'm so sorry you can relate to the migraine pain. Because of my work schedule, my botox injection schedule was delayed by two weeks...grr! Need to make sure that doesn't happen again. I didn't realize what a difference that would make. Lesson learned for sure.

      I think it's vital that you end up marrying your best friend. Because while sex is important, it isn't everything and isn't the catch all either. If you're with your best friend it means you're communicating and then everything falls in line..including the sex.

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  7. I hope your migraines get better!

    I agree about marriage. I was just discussing with my husband last night how in less that 2 months, it'll be our 10 year wedding anniversary. He said it doesn't feel like that long, unless you think about the kids and how much longer they make the day feel. :) We've had a great relationship. I'm looking forward to another 10 years.

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    1. Thanks, Loni, they are improving with each passing day, thankfully.

      Wow! Ten years! Awesome! haha, kids can do that to a marriage..so can money hehehe ;) I love hearing when couples have a great, long, relationship through the good times and the bad. It's not always sunshine and rainbows but a good marriage is worth the hard work for sure!

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  8. The challenge has been...challenging. I'm looking forward to posting a couple times a week again. Plus, I get to finally finish my next book; all I need is to edit it a few more times. Good grief, it's been weeks since I looked at any of it!

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    1. I remember just how challenging the Challenge was. By the end it was both rewarding and exhausting. I think I took a week long break afterwards. Glad to hear you'll have time to work on your book again when it's done. I'm putting some finishing touches on Steps Along My Shore this weekend. It may be done sooner than thought. Yip Yip!

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  9. Hope the migraines get better soon, in a partner I want trust but............

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    1. They are getting there. It just takes some time. I'm fighting another round this weekend. Blasted weather! Thanks for the well wishes. Trust is hard to give sometimes and if it's been broken even harder to re-establish.

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  10. Hi Elsie - glad you're feeling easier - and yes it's necessary to step away for while ... but we'll be seeing you around, and more importantly you've that extra day of work .. good for you - cheers Hilary

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    1. Thank you, Hilary. It definitely was necessary to take a bit of a break and be kind to myself for a few weeks. I missed everyone here but needed to prioritize. I'm grateful for the extra day of work and so is my pocketbook! :)

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  11. The marriage isn't beautiful thing s bloody great I am going to post it on my niece's Facebook page she got married yesterday.

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  12. Sweetie, first: so sorry for your migraine nightmares. I really hope for reprieve for you.

    Second: My book says it all. I hope to not hope to find a partner to complete my life. It's not necessary. What's necessary are chocolate, batteries, and self-love. That said, it would be nice to have a friend (and lover) for life. Who doesn't want that? So much of an ugly price to pay, though. Thanks for keeping it real.

    Love ya.

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  13. Sorry about your head. Hope you feel all the way better, soon. Blog when you can, you don't have to stick to anything. It's a blog. Not a big deal. You are far more important but you know this already.

    As for marriage. I love it. LOVE it.

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    1. Thank you, Ivy, I appreciate the well wishes. That's the one great thing about blogging - no schedule. And the better thing about my blogging buddies - always there when I get back :) Hope all is well in your neck of the woods!

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  14. I sincerely hope that your migraines subside. You are right in that marriage is not easy at all. Probably one of the most difficult things one will ever do.

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    1. Thank you, Keith. Slowly getting back to normal. Marriage can be difficult at times but it's definitely worth those rough patches in the end. Hope you've been doing well with your new love!

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  15. I also am sorry to hear about the migraines. I blame The Walking Dead finale for triggering you.

    Also, that piece about marriage is awesome, so much so that I shared it with the wife. She nodded along a little too hard for my comforts, but I guess it IS all true.

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    1. Don't get me started on that finale...oh, wait...too late! You already know how I feel about it.

      I shared it with Devin when I saw it on Facebook, he loved it too. Of course he added a comment about farting haha

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  16. Sorry about the migraines too ~ Sometimes my hubby drives me nuts but he is very supportive when I need it ~ Take care Elsie ~

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    1. Thank you, Grace. I agree, as crazy making as our spouses can be, it's worth it in the end.

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  17. Hi Elsie,

    I've very sorry to read about your migraines. Here's to you getting better and better, my kind friend.

    I honoured my marriage vows. I was there for my wife who was overwhelmed with issues from being sexually abused as a child. I cared for her, I loved her through 18 years of a platonic relationship. I cracked up for I could do no more. I became very ill, she got pregnant for a second time whilst married to me. I wasn't the father to the second child. I'm totally fucked up from marriage. And yet, I know there is hope and love out there...

    Take care, Elsie.

    Gary

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    1. Gary, I'm so sorry your ex broke the trust and the bonds of your marriage in such a terrible and painful way. You didn't deserve that after being there for her for so long. I'm sorry she wasn't there for you when you needed her the most. I hope you know that it wasn't your fault. It's all on her and she takes all the blame. I'm so happy to know that you still hold hope for love, that makes my heart smile and I'm thinking you'll find it one day!

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  18. Hi dear Elsie? How are you doing dear??
    I think my hubby drives me nut and in this momento I dont talk any with him because he doesnt heard.
    But by others side I know is a good man, now my dad is sick and my mom sometimes too he really helps us.
    My mom call : your dad fall and here we go etc.
    I know is difficult.
    Im sorry you still have these migraines. Are awful I know !
    I wanna whish you a happy mom's day I know you are a lovely mom Elsie. Hugs and love xoxoxoxo

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    1. Happy Mother's Day, Gloria! I hope it's a great one for you! You deserve to be spoiled for all you do for those great twins. I hope they are doing well. I'm sorry to hear about your parents' health. I hope things improve soon. Sometimes our hubby's need a little time to think, but they eventually catch on :)

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