Monday, February 8, 2016

The Stars Aligned…


Last week the stars aligned…just not for what I expected. As I mentioned a few posts back, my self-help book was so close to publishing, I could smell the carbon on the paper. (Anyone old enough to remember those days?)

Bryan returned my WIP with a few minor edits and all I had left to do was a final read through. Then, it occurred to me I should probably send out a few CYA emails to avoid getting sued. You know, copyrights and all that silly legal mumbo jumbo stuff I’m too naive to understand.

Turns out it’s a good thing I sent out those emails. Because, um yeah, the first email was promptly (and extremely politely) answered and my excerpt is still under review by their attorney.

Another email was also quickly answered, only the response was one I didn’t see coming. Long time readers already know how firmly I believe that things happen for a reason. How clichĂ©, right? I know, I know. But hear me out.

The person offered me a unique opportunity: a chance to sit in on a support group offered for the injured spouses of addicts. I can get additional ideas for my book and also help them heal from their trauma in the process. Exactly the reason I wrote the book - to help people heal. How cool is that?

Last week was my first meeting and it went thirty minutes over so I’d say it went well. They were a welcoming and warm group of folks who love to laugh, just like me.

And while this delays publishing my book for a bit, I think it will be a better book because of it. I’m sure there are things I’ve gone through that I’ve since forgotten and talking to these fine folks will help jog my memory to include it in my final draft. I’m stoked!
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How about that game last night? What was your favorite commercial?

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  1. You couldn't pass up that opportunity. Anything to make the book better!

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    1. I agree, Alex. The more research and more opportunity for feedback from people who have been there and done that, the better!

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  2. That's so great! I'm glad you did the CYA thing but the new group is going to be good. I didn't watch the game much. I thought it was boring and the commercials I saw were lame. I bailed around 8 pm.

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    1. I'm glad I did the CYA thing too. I didn't expect a lawyer to be reviewing an excerpt of it. That took me by surprise. Devin and I were talking about the commercials this morning and could barely remember most of them. My favorite was before the game even started - the Doritos sonogram

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  3. Hi Elisie - sounds like you made the right judgement call there and got that amazing opportunity. Good luck, but does sound up your street ... and I'm sure will help many. Didn't see the game - cheers Hilary

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    1. I feel in my heart that delaying the book for a few months is the right thing to do. It was a good game but that's probably because I was pulling for the Bronco's to win it. :)

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  4. Yes, never overlook or ignore "the legal stuff" -- it can come back to bite you in the ass.

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    1. No kidding and I don't have the money or the lawyers for all that! I just wanna help!

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  5. Progress and the chance for an even better work? Sounds like a good week.

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  6. Cover yourself on the legal issues. Better safe than sued. Plus it got you a unique opportunity.

    None of the commercials really stood out to me. I felt bad for all my Panther fans thought.

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    1. Yes, and it didn't even occur to me until my final read through. I'm so naive, sometimes. (i.e.: dumb hehe) At least the Panthers made it in. The Giants didn't even come close!

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    2. Yeah, this is very true, but our pain has settled into a dull ache. Whether it's fair or not, Panthers fans may feel like a bandaid has just been ripped off.

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  7. ^ I like that, 'Better safe than sued'. It's amazing what's copyrighted, and what can land you in hot water. Like you can't even reference a single song lyric in a book without having to obtain permission (and possibly pay royalties). Glad to hear this is gonna help your book along in an even more positive direction.

    And hey, what's up with your boy Eli giving Peyton the stink eye on that last TD drive that sealed the victory? The Internet is having a field day with that expression. "Well, looks like Peyton's the favorite son again."

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    1. I like that too, 'Better safe than sued' - very true!

      And today I learned something new: that reference a song lyric without obtaining permission and possibly having to pay royalties. Geez Louise <-- now do I have to pay her too? I'm trying to think if I referenced a song in the self-help book...don't think so but I know for sure I referenced a ton of unknown authors. Can't pay royalties to them, thank goodness.

      I saw that look on Eli last night (double-checked to make sure we were talking about the same one). It's the same one he has ALL the same. And since you read my self-help book you know I like to avoid that word *all*, but in this case it's true. I think he suffers from some emotional disorder.

      Yep, it exists. Just looked it up: Alexithymia: in part, "which is thought to lead to unempathic and ineffective emotional responding" so I blame that for his lack of well, any emotions aside from looking dumbfounded all the time. ELI!!!!!!!

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    2. I saw Eli's look and laughed. Although I'm sure it wasn't, it was like a little brother being jealous of his big brother.
      That's okay, though. Eli has one more Super Bowl MVP than Peyton.

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  8. Absolutely for the best. Those are exciting delays. You're already marketing and growing a readership, while adding new material for your to-be-published baby. You're already helping others in that situation. You're a rockstar, plain and simple. Keep on, my friend.
    PS We love your anti-Valentine's entry. It cracks me up!

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    1. Confession time: I'm scared. Because I want to share excerpts of my book with them so they can provide honest feedback because who better than to let me know if it's any good than those who've been there too, but what if they say it's crap? But I'd rather a handful of people say it's crap than an entire websiteful (Amazon) of people :)

      So glad my entry made you smile!!!

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  9. That is awesome indeed, will sure help the book out and make it even better. Really have to worry about being sued when using things, especially in non fiction.

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    1. That's truly the tricky part because it's non-fiction. Can't be all willy nilly with things like we can with fiction.

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  10. That's one of the reasons I change the names in my books. I also make darn sure that if anyone can be even CLOSE to being identified, they aren't doing anything remotely (potentially) embarrassing. If I have to have a knuckleheaded clown somewhere along the way, I make them COMPLETELY fictional.
    The game last night? I'm a Giants fan, so it didn't really matter to me. I think overall I was glad that Denver won, though. Mostly because I think Cam Newton is a whiny baby punk. If you like good defense, the game was good.
    The puppybabymonkeywhateverthefrik commercial, though? Good grief, it was like something made by Victor Frankenstein. Or the Nazis.

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    1. Same here, Al. All the names in my book have been changed. Then as I did my next pass, I went even further and removed even more identifying information. The point is to help people heal, hurt people in the process.

      Oh my gosh, that puppy-baby-monkey one was terrible. Yes, we may be talking about it, but gah! Awful. I hope to never see it again. And I'm with you, Cam Newton is a such a whiner. He was whining before the SB started so I was already rooting against him. And I'm a big Giants fan but since they weren't in it, I was pulling for the Broncos to win.

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  11. I liked the Helen Mirren/Budweiser ad!

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    1. I did too. She's so classy even if I felt guilty. And I wasn't even drinking!

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  12. Thanks for the update Elsie and I am excited for you ~ Hope the stars will align to your advantage, smiles ~ All the best for a good week ~

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  13. That's amazing!! Youre going to help lots of people between your book, the blog, and now the support group. It's because you're an amazing person and you have a great way with words!!! Xo

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  14. Congratulations. Things don't necessarily happen the way we plan them, but it's still good stuff!

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  15. Ok didn't see the game so have no comment about it, did see some of the adds on our morning show I liked the Dorito's baby add not sure if you saw that

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  16. I love it. So glad you reached out and found not only a new opportunity, but extra material to bolster your book. Yay!

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  17. Things take time for healing and I hope the delay will give u enough time to go through and include more idea on the book! All the best, Elsie

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  18. Hi, dear friend,
    I needed to give a spotlight to poor Cam on my blog today.
    Happy Valentine's doll.

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  19. How about that... Your book will be even greater now, Elsie :))

    I'm happy for you.

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  20. Sounds like everything worked out for the best for you. :-)

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  21. Wow, that's really cool! That group is lucky to have you and I've no doubt the experience will make your book even better.

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