Wednesday, June 3, 2015

What Happened to the Quiet? - IWSG Post


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June! It’s finally here! No more snow, no more ice, just warm weather and opportunities for beach time. But, this wonderful time of year brings distractions that take me away from writing.


My alone time has vanished. My children are all around me again - each and every one of them; and my husband, who just got laid off from work, wants to spend time with the everybody before the next job comes along. (Please pray or send good vibes that one does soon).


I have a family who loves each other and actually wants to spend time together. That’s truly a blessing. A blessing I very much appreciate. I shouldn’t complain (but you know I will anyway). With all these people around (aka my wonderful family), I rarely have that quiet time I used to enjoy when I woke up early or got home from work. 


I suppose instead of griping about it, I’ll enjoy this one last summer when I’ll have my children surrounding me and while my hubby’s at home (before he vanishes into the work force again.)

The book can wait for a bit and I’ll appreciate those noiseless moments even more when they happen over the summer. That is if I’m not sulking about my entire family doing something other than spending time with me.


Will your writing slow down over the summer? Do you have any great plans for the next few months?




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51 comments:

  1. There is a season for everything. If your family wants to be together, count it as a blessing. You won't look back and regret not writing during this time but you will look back and regret not spending time with them.
    Prayers your husband finds another job soon!

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    1. Thank you for the prayers, Alex. They are greatly appreciated. I've told Devin before - carve out that family time as much as possible because the people who will be there when he's sick, dying, or alone are us...not co-worker's. So, yeah, I'm gonna enjoy it while it lasts.

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  2. I will be praying a job opportunity comes up soon.

    I lost a lot of time last month due to a visit from my husband's parents. But I enjoyed spending time with them, so it was worth it.

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    1. Thank you so much for the prayers. I agree, this time is well worth it. I'll look back and feel better about spending time with my family rather than holed up in my room writing.

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  3. It sounds like everyone in your family is in a pretty good place right now. Cheers to that! Your son is going on his first military assignment? Eep!! Prayers for him and your husband.

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    1. Thanks, Jax. Yep. Junior will go to his first duty station sometime next year. We're all so excited for him. Thank you for the prayers.

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  4. It sounds like everyone in your family is in a pretty good place right now. Cheers to that! Your son is going on his first military assignment? Eep!! Prayers for him and your husband.

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  5. So sorry to hear about your hubby being laid off. I will pray that he finds something else very soon. I love my husband too, but it was hard for me to having him under foot all day. They get bored and then they become interested in every little thing you're doing, which can drive a woman bonkers!

    I do hope Junior is going someplace where there is no fighting. I shall pray for him as well.

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    1. Thank you, Anne. We need and appreciate your prayers. Oh, yeah, I love my hubby but having him around ALL day long...whew! :) Junior will be stationed in Florida at a "resort" base. He should be far away from the dangers in the sand. They warned him his field includes lots of TDYs but that's a lot different than deployments. Most likely he'll be in Europe quite a bit.

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  6. Obvious summer is a time for enjoyment and of course writing (for me blogging) get disturbed slightly, but I don’t feel like complaining rather I enjoy the moments being with cousins (who visit home for summer vacation) and going out along with them. Glad you all getting together and everyone with their future plans, sure this time gone be memorable for all.

    All the best for your boys and girl :) Cheer up Elsie... what’s there in life if not sharing. You can relish solitude or quietness later. Now enjoy

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    1. That's a great point too, Jeevan. We'll be seeing a bunch of family this summer so that will eat into my writing time too but I would much rather see everyone than be hiding in my room writing. Life passes by too quickly to be distracted by writing.

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  7. Sorry to hear that. Hang in there, and best wishes.

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    1. Thanks. I'll keep on keepin' on. It's the best way.

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  8. Amen! You can't replace living time with writing time. Life happens so quickly. I'm wishing your hubby some amazing work, and I say live in the moment. Writing will come soon enough, but the noise of real life is what matters when we leave this life, not what got printed on a page.

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    1. Living in the moment is great advice. Time can get lost and move rapidly and if I'm not careful, it can escape me completely. The noise is much better!

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  9. Its a blessing that your family love each other and want to spend time with each other. Praying that your husband gets a good job soon!

    Rachna Chhabria
    Co-host IWSG
    Rachna's Scriptorium

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    1. Thank you so much for the prayers. We appreciate them. Yeah, I'm pretty lucky my family loves and enjoys each other.

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  10. I will keep my fingers and toes crossed that your husband gets a new job soon. And I hope you all enjoy your family time together. Take care!

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    1. Thanks for the good vibes. I'm sure something will come along soon (my fingers and toes are crossed too ;p ) I love me some family time!

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  11. By the sound of things, you're going to have a lovely summer with the family.
    Here's hoping all goes well and your hubby finds a new job soon.

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    1. We've actually got quite a bit planned for this summer. Everything from a trip to Colorado to simple BBQ dinners like tonight. That's what really makes my heart smile.

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  12. I call my layoff- retired lol hey, I can be retired and come un-retired later lol hope he finds work quick. But yeah, can't really complain about family time, unless you're you and need something to whine about. Whoops, blame the cat hahaha but yeah, enjoy every minute of it.

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    1. Yeah, hubby said the same thing. He'll quit working when he's retired (again) but fate had different plans for him. But hey, now I have help around the house. The kitchen's never been cleaner!!

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    2. Your post just showed up in my blogroll a week later lol you piss blogger off?

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  13. I don't know if it will slow down but it will be more of a challenge when the family demands kick in. I think the grass is always greener no matter what we have. Something for both of us to think about. :-)

    Here's my link if you'd like to drop by :-)

    Anna from Elements of Writing

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    1. I think you're right. When my family isn't surrounding me, I'm sad because I miss them (what will I do when my boys move out of state?) But, when they are here, I'm like, ugh some quiet time would be nice. haha

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  14. Oh, Elsie, I am so sorry about your husband's job. But do relish in the time while you have it. You'll get back to business with your writing. You always do.
    My laptop is out of commission, and this computer only decides to work a fraction of the time. That's slowing me down these days. Hopefully, I'll move forward as planned with my book, though.
    Love you.

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    1. Oh no! I hope your computer decides to hang on for a very long time. (I feel like you just bought your laptop not that long ago) You're so close to making everything come together, I'd hate for that to stop you. You and I will keep on truckin'

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  15. Oh, Elsie, I am so sorry about your husband's job. But do relish in the time while you have it. You'll get back to business with your writing. You always do.
    My laptop is out of commission, and this computer only decides to work a fraction of the time. That's slowing me down these days. Hopefully, I'll move forward as planned with my book, though.
    Love you.

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  16. Hi Elsie,

    Oh dear and such times of family upheaval. Your family is loving, is resilient, is determined. This comes across so well in your heartfelt post.

    All about balance and priorities. I do hope that your beloved husband gets a job sooner rather than later.

    Hugs and hope, your way,

    Gary :)

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    1. Thank you, Gary. Yeah, I'm blessed with a wonderful and loving family - even when we're driving each other crazy, I'd have it no other way. It's that chaos that makes things so interesting.

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  17. Ha, I do that too; complain about things that are also blessings. Just human nature to never be satisfied. At least you admit it :) Enjoy your summer.

    I know I have lots of things this summer that will distract me from writing. Good things that will frustrate me. And I will complain about. And be so happy that my life is so full of wonder and awe.

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    1. I think it is human nature to complain. Even when I know things are out of my hands or will turn around, there's a moment or two that I need to just bitch for a bit. Maybe it's because I'm a chick. ;p

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  18. Enjoy these wonderful times. They are so precious. My own summer will be busy with projects. I just released a new book today and I'm halfway through another project ;-)

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    1. They really are precious. I've found that as I get older, I learn to cherish the smaller things in life because I understand that they won't always be there for me...especially as the kids get older. Best of luck with your book!!

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  19. I hope my writing doesn't slow down this summer. I have to get my book done for those who want to piss away twenty bucks on people they don't much care for at Christmas.
    Although, we will be quite busy going here and there. For instance, next week...Virginia Beach.
    The week after...Connecticut.
    Then, there's the "Annual Penwasser Brothers Boozefest Under the Stars" this August.

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  20. Enjoy these precious family time as you don't know when it will come again, smiles ~ Have a wonderful weekend Elsie and take it easy ha ~

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  21. It is good when a family enjoys spending time together, my family is the same we like to spend time together, but I love to spend time alone just as much

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  22. Happy Almost Summer - Sorry about Hub's. Hope a good job comes along soon.

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  23. Oh goodness, I could have written this post a couple years ago! It was pretty much the story of my life, even with the kids growing up and moving out, there was always something. Now that we're out of the country, I do miss that hectic family lifestyle! There can be such a thing as too much quiet, too much alone time, and I never thought I'd say that. Funny thing is, I don't seem to be getting things done any faster than before!

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  24. I hope a new job comes along soon for your husband. Enjoy the summer with him and your kids!

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  25. It will be nice with the family all around-cherish it. On the other hand, I know what you are feeling. When I met my hubby, he was working afternoon shifts. I would come home to my home and it would be silent except for our furbabies. It was wonderful(pause and dream....). In 2009 he lost his job, went back to school to upgrade, found out he has ADHD(finally diagnosed) and then off work permanently due to rheumatoid arthritis. he is home.ALL THE TIME! I miss my quiet time. He is a homebody and never leaves. he is like Speedy Gonzales-always going and it can be tiring which is due to his ADHD. I wish he would go out a bit:) Now on the brighter side-he has fixed up the house and it looks great! He makes meals during the week days when I am working and takes care of so much dependent on his arthritis of course. So I hear you and sympathize.

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  26. I'm so sorry hubs lost his job! I hope something comes up for him soon. In the meantime, enjoy this time with your family, take some day trips and make memories before life interferes and everyone scatters. We have no plans for this summer at all...my husband is considering a job change but we're not sure how that would play out at this point yet. At least the option is there. I'm just wanting to take day trips, walk, do some photography and keep life on an even keel which it has not been on for months.

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  27. Enjoy 'em while you got 'em. Quiet sucks when there's no one around to break it up. Unless you have a really annoying live-in girlfriend. Then you roll to a Meijers parking lot and sit way in the back for your quiet time. Then quiet doesn't suck at all for a few months.

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  28. I'm hoping it speeds up over the summer. lol Definitely enjoy those family moments.

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  29. Sorry I'm so late getting here.

    I needed a break from my novel. I hit a wall and couldn't get past it. So, I did other stuff and wondered if I'd ever feel the urge to get back to it again.

    About two months went by and I wasn't even thinking about my novel. And then my mind started to play with ideas for the scene where I was stuck. I still haven't decided where I want it to go. My brain is still working it out. And then I got an idea for another story, which I haven't committed to paper, but spend time daydreaming about it. I think that when these stories become compelling enough I'll start again fresh and excited.

    What I'm trying to say is that taking a break isn't necessarily all bad. Do some living. Spend some time with your family. Enjoy being in that moment. Then when they're back to their things you'll enjoy your thing even more.

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  30. I don't think I know which way I want to go with this response, but I feel your pain.

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  31. It's great to see how your family wants to spend time together. Writing will still be there once all of the craziness is over!

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  32. Hope your husband has secured a job by now or has one soon to come. I eventually gave up looking and took early retirement which has had its advantages.

    We have a massive trip about to start this coming weekend. Two months across and all over the country. Someday I've got to move where our kids moved cause I don't think they're coming back to California where we are..

    Have a great summer!

    Arlee Bird
    A to Z Challenge Co-host
    Tossing It Out

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  33. This is not only a wonderful season but you are having a wonderful time with your loving family. Hope and pray you husband gets a job soon. I am sure you will be able to find some time to continue writing without a break and finish your book. I won't be surprised if you miss your family once they busy with their own work. The happy conversations, laughter, excitement, eating together etc. will disappear from your daily life once your family goes out with their own work.

    Have a good time.

    Best wishes

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