Monday, April 20, 2015

Where do I begin?

Where do I begin?

 Honestly, I’m not sure. I’ve been gone from the blogging world for six weeks. Seems like a lifetime ago (exaggerate much, Elsie?).

I’ll start by saying I’m in great place right now.

Life is good.

The rush at work is over and I can breath again. What was supposed to only be a seasonal job turned into an all year round job and that’s great news for me. The owner of the company I work for also gets migraines which means the people I work with are compassionate about it versus the whole, “It’s all in your head” mentality.

Although it’s a part-time job, it suits my needs. I can get out of the house and feel productive without overloading my poor fibro’d body. Then, when I’m done with work I chill out in my awesome new massage chair. That thing rocks.


On the home front, things were a bit rocky after I updated my boundary agreement with Devin. He felt that all too familiar feeling of dread because it contains deadlines for certain things regarding his recovery. Rather than talk to me about it, he held it in and then the animosity started showing up in different ways.

Eventually, we sat down and talked about it and of course, things went much smoother after that. He’s found a new determination in his approach to his recovery. As for mine, well, I deeply miss my weekly meetings but I’m still able to reach out to a woman in my group and help others in the S-Anon program by being a sponsor. Helping others really helps me stay in a healthy recovery.

And finally on the writing front, I finished my next round of edits on my mob book. It was a painstaking process because I had to remove all the double spacing I had in there along with adding in those blasted emotions I neglected to show the first time around. But, I’m glad it’s done.

While I wait for the critique to come back, I plan on working on my self-help book. It’s been difficult to work on because of the memories it tends to bring up, but I’ll move through them and be a better person because of it and hopefully be able to help others too.

I hope to have them both finished – revisions and all – by the end of the year.


So, what have I missed in the blogosphere? What have you guys been up to? How’s the A-Z Challenge going? Anyone else close to finishing up something that's taken forever to do?



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  1. Glad you worked things out with Devon.
    Hope you got my email about your feature a while back!

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    1. I got it, thank you for the mention, that was awesome! It was pretty late that night before I was able to post a comment on there. I was running on fumes when it ran.

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  2. Your attitude shines brightly all the way over here in CA. Keep on keepin on, my friend. Congratulations on finishing one book. I think I already told you this but, like sex. Once you've done it, you feel much better and wonder what you were so anxious about. Well, maybe that's not a good analogy. I'll just say, I know you can do it and do it well. I'm here too, if you'd like further input.

    Hugs!

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    1. I cannot thank you enough for your continued support, Robyn. Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it - and that it is my rough draft. :)

      It'd been so long since I picked up your editing notes, I forgot where I left off. I got further than I remembered but still have a long way to go. But, I very much appreciate your continued input. You rock! And, I hope you're doing well.

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  3. Well geez, you and your old one eye finally decided to show up. The cat almost forgot your cyclops ways...not really. When life is good that is grand indeed. Thankfully with my new project, because of the nature of it, I leave in the double spacing, so don't have to bother with that headache. Although this one has taken a long arse time for me, almost done though.

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    1. I know, right. I finally resurfaced. I was hoping the cat just might forget who I am so I wouldn't have to worry about him picking on me but I see that isn't the case. One eyed I can handle..old..not so much. haha

      What is this new project you speak of? Another children's book? What is that 775?

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    2. lol old one eye is too much? Thanks for letting me know. Can have a merry old time now haha

      Nope, not a kids book as the f bomb is dropped a few times. Next month it comes due as I only have 32,000 words left to edit.

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    3. Such a mean hearted cat. But, I've come to expect nothing less.

      Wow, not a kid's book? I'm intrigued to see what you've got coming down the pike. And, it's a long book too. Good for you, Pat!!

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  4. A lot has happened in six weeks! I think more people fit their needs around their jobs, most of the time it has to be done. I'm very happy you've gone around that. I hope all your smoothness remains maintained between you and Devin. Bumps are natural.

    Editing is doubly awesome when you have double spaces to catch and undo. That's the best and definitely not the most boring part at all.

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    1. I should have had you remove all those double spaces, D4. haha. That just sucked! But, it also gave me a chance to add a bit here and there and also take some stuff out. But, that means more to review during the final pass. I'll be done one of these days. Yeah, I agree. Bumps are natural in any marriage so with mine, I know they're bound to happen a bit more than most.

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    2. I don't know what you use to edit, but when I use open office it shows me the double spaces immediately. Now when I'm writing something serious, even when I know there's nothing left to edit, I read and re-read. I'm kinda lucky not to worry about the double spaces so much, but more often than not I feel I should be adding more than taking away.

      I couple relationship bumps along with most other "bad" things that can happen. Gives character and strength!

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    3. You know, I wonder if that was an option in Word that I just missed. I'll bet it was. I'll have check on that as I edit my self-help book. I was taught in high school (long before computers) that we had to have a double space after the period so it's a hard habit to break. Glad it's one you don't have to worry about.

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  5. Congrats on finishing the next round of edits, even if it meant removing all of the double spacing.

    I want a chair like that.

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    1. I absolutely love my chair. It's helped me get through my work days. Well worth the cost to me. :)

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  6. I couldn't tell you what's been up in the blogosphere since I haven't been around much either. But I'm trying to make a comeback. In fact I just posted something this morning in hopes of keeping WD alive.

    A-Z challenge? Yeah right! I can't even keep up with my own challenge of posting once a week.

    Oh, and I want that chair!!!!

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    1. Hmm, seems like I've heard the "making a comeback" thing from you before. haha. Life does get in the way and I had to chose where I wanted my time spent so I chose finishing up the book over blogging. I'll head over to your new post in a second.

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    2. Actually I'm going to let you in on a secret....my comeback is a story to designed to rid myself of Workingdan once and for all.....or is it? Don't want to spoil it for you too much! ;)

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    3. Don't you dare get rid of WD - unless he's going to become RD - retired Dan or RD - rich dan haha

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  7. Hey you... good morning...

    Things just get in the way from time to time... no?

    There are song lyrics that John Lennon once wrote... something to the effect of...

    "Life is what happes while we are busy making other plans..."

    You have so much happening in your Life, yet you persevere...

    That requires great strength...

    Peace...

    ~shoes~

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    1. Hi Shoes! I hope you're doing well. I'm doing fantastic. I could complain, but who'd listen? I like that lyric. It resonates with me. I just need to make sure I enjoy life before it's too late.

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  8. I saw your comment on Birgit's (BB Creations) post and wanted to see your blog. A to Z Challenge is wonderful and exhausting, like a marathon is designed to be I guess. Thanks for asking. I'll be back to check out your IWSG post. I'm in that group too. Good luck with your mob book.

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by, Stephanie. I did the challenge last year and helped co-host a few times - yep, totally exhausting. I was so over blogging after April and had to take some down time away from it. Thanks!

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  9. Missed you around here, but life has a tendency to wrap itself around us. The A-Z Challenge is going well. As you've seen, I'm writing haikus. These are simple to write in one sense. But, they're challenging to write in another because I hope to generate a little laughter with them (except the ISIS one, obviously). I should have what I call my "Navy" book done this fall. It's about the three years I spent aboard the USS America (at the time, I little suspected I'd be coming back to visit my son in Norfolk 38 years layer....good grief).

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    1. I love that you took such a unique approach to the challenge. I imagine writing the haikus was actually pretty difficult. Not sure I could do it. I'll have to go back and see you I post. Good for you on finishing up your "Navy" book. Funny how life comes back in full circle. 38 years…wow!!

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    2. It's all pretty ironic how life has turned out. He has a job as a civil engineer in Virginia Beach and lives in Norfolk. In the same neighborhood which had a slew of sailor bars and other such "entertainments" when I was a young sailor all those years ago. Even MORE ironic? I want to move back down there when my daughter graduates college in 2016. Life, huh?

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    3. Wow. That's amazing, Al. Such a great place to retire too. You can't beat the beaches (especially Sandbridge the one the tourists don't know about). We just love it here and are so grateful to retire here.

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    4. Mrs. Penwasser is a local so she knows all about it. Since I lived there for 11 years, I consider myself local...ish. We actually like to go to Va Beach around 85(?) Street. I can't remember the exact street, but it's the one just before the gate to Fort Story.

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    5. Although...I think I'd like to retire in North Carolina (around Moyock) because NC will not tax my Navy retirement like Virginia will.

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    6. Over by Fort Story is really nice. Then again, so it Fort Story. Where else can you go take your dog to the vet and have a light house to look at while you wait. haha Oh, yeah, VA taxes are the worst!

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  10. I was happy to see a post by you in my inbox, it is good that you and Devin have been able to sit and talk things through as so many people just throw in the towel and say it's too hard why bother

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    1. Thanks, Jo-Anne. It's funny, our communication just keeps getting better and better as we shed the skin of our old habit. I love it!

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  11. Glad to hear you sound positive, on home and working front and cool about the massage chair! Keep rocking Elsie. All the best with your self-help book and editing

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    1. I absolutely love my massage chair. It has really saved me on the days I work and am hunched over a desk. I wish I could have taken it as a write off on my taxes haha!

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  12. It does sound like you're in a good place. And I want that chair! Actually, I'd marry that chair right now. :P

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    1. I think that chair is the best investment I've made in a long time. So glad I made the leap and spent the money on it.

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  13. OMG that chair looks HEAVENLY!!!!!!!!! I would only ever leave Russell for that chair and I think he'd say the same thing. lol So happy to hear that you are in a good place and things are going well! I have been somewhat lazy about posting mostly b/c I haven't done anything or gone anywhere interesting. My craft muse even left. But now that it's getting to be late spring, I am in the midst of cleaning, organizing, planning day trips and rescheduling all the snowed out lunches from the winter.

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    1. I'm kina in there with you as far as not having much to say. I mean, work and family life doesn't promote much excitement. Then again, I'm sure if I thought about it for more than a couple of seconds, I'd realize that there's more excitement in my life than I realize. haha

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  14. That's great that you've finished a round of edits. I'm working on a round of revisions right now, and it's quite a chore!

    I think it's great that you intend to help others with your self-help book. When it gets tough to write certain parts that bring up bad memories and bad feelings, it's okay to step back and take a break....or a deep breath, at least. =)

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    1. Editing is such a pain but I don't dread it as much as I used to because now I at least understand what the whole point of it is :) I've made myself stop at some of the rougher spot to gather up my emotions then use those emotions to push myself a little bit further and bring those feelings into my writing instead of trying to avoid or bottle them up

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  15. O, good Lord! My house burned down, my son won a million bucks, and an elephant ran over my car! Well, not really, but that'll teach you...

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    1. Wow! You've had a lot going on in your world, Chris. haha

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  16. It sounds like you have had a lot on your plate! I think you got so much done and it is stressful so glad you have that chair to relax in. Communication is key in any relationship so I am glad things are smoother for you. I was sick with the flu and bronchitis in March. Just feeling better now believe it or not:) I am thigh deep in the A to Z and it is reading everyone's posts that take the time but I am loving it. I have made a few cards but have not posted them yet. Everything has been up in the air due to the challenge:)

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    1. Oh, no! Birgit, I"m so sorry to hear you've been sick. I hope you continue to feel better and better with each passing day. That A-Z is one tough challenge. Kudos' to you for being in it. I know it really drained me last year.

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  17. I am happy to read that you are in a good place ~ I thought you were into this April daily challenge, which I am NOT, ha ~

    Hey I am envious of that massage chair :-)

    Wishing you a productive week ~ Happy spring day ~

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    1. I did the challenge last year but there was no way I could do it this year and work. I'd be a terrible participant. ;) I love my chair! Have a beautiful week.

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  18. Holy big bag of potato chips, Batman. Lots going on for you. I agree about the understanding workplace. Tim has that, too.

    Great job on the edits. Keep it up, Cupcake.

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    1. Thanks, Ivy. I'm definitely blessed to have such a great crew at work. Glad Tim does too.

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  19. My goodness, you've been busy!!! Enjoy that fab chair . . . can I borrow it sometime, LOL?

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    1. You can come sit in that chair anytime you'd like..but it's like Hotel California…you can never leave

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  20. Welcome back, Elsie! I wish someone WOULD tell me a migraine was "all in my head". GEEZ.

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    1. I'd forgotten you get migraines. Ugh, sorry you can relate!

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  21. Elsie, I'm so glad you found a job that allows you to work and understands when you can't. Those are rare.

    That chair looks like paradise. ::so envious::

    Congrats on finishing the revisions. Does it feel endless to you? It sure does to me...

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    1. Oh yeah, the edits feel like they took longer than writing the book. But, I realized I had to stop at some point or I'd drive myself insane. Good luck with yours!

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  22. I've been away for a couple months myself and just popped in for a second. Glad to hear things are going so well for you right now. You seem happy and content. I'm pretty happy myself right now and don 't anticipate coming back for a few months. Until we meet again.....

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    1. Anne!! So so good to see you. I'm super happy to hear that you are in a good place too. You deserve so happiness with all you've been through. Until next time…hugs.

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  23. As always, cheers to progress - with your marriage, with your writing, with your life - you never stop growing in all facets of life, and that's awesome.

    It's so cool to be reading over you book (yeah, I'm back on it!) and see it all properly formatted. So easy on the eyes. Feels good, man.

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    1. Yay! I'm super excited you're reading my book…and a tad nervous too. But, I'm fairly confident it's reaching it's end stages. I can feel it. Maybe a tweak here and there, but no more major rewrites. W00t!

      (And that drawing…um a bit creepy…)

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  24. It was great to see a post from you, Elsie, and then even better to read "Life is good." I'm happy for you that you are in a good place. And how wonderful that the job is such a great fit for you. Take care and enjoy that amazing chair!

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    1. Thank you, Julie. It's so good to be back. I hope you're doing well and the Challenge isn't taking too much out of you, but at least it's the last day. :)

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  25. Good to hear you're doing great. The rush at work is over and you can breath again... Well, good for you, Elsie. Good for you. :)

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    1. Yes, Blue, it's so good. But, I'm still a bit surprised at how busy our office is. All those late filers and people who got love letters from the IRS. Poor folks. Hope you're well!!

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    2. I'm doing much better. Thank you for asking :)

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