I guess in my case it’s more, “All good things may come to an end.”
Don’t worry. You’re not getting rid of me so easily. I’m not talking about my blog. I’m talking about my S-Anon meetings. The meetings are on a pause for the summer due to low attendance and I miss them terribly. For me, it’s not only a safe place to share my experiences but one that reminds how things used to be in my world. They serve as a reminder how important it is for Devin and I to stay in recovery.
I was the trusted servant for our small group for close to two years. I was also the treasurer, the contact person for newcomers and the WSO, performed local outreach, and a meeting facilitator. It was a lot for one person but I wanted our meetings to thrive so when no one volunteered, I took on the responsibilities.
Last fall I got help from another member to be the meeting facilitator and that allowed me to get a break every other week. But, even with that help, I was burnt out. Two years was just too long to do it all, no matter how I loved the meetings. I knew I needed to step down as a trusted servant when I started to resent not getting additional help for the other positions I held. It revealed I was in the wrong place mentally.
In May I stepped down from being a trusted servant leaving all those positions vacant. We sent out an email and text to the members asking for volunteers. It wasn’t fair that the other woman take on everything I was leaving behind. Sadly, only one person stepped up to help lead meetings and she wasn’t able to do any in July.
Six weeks after I stepped down, I was asked by the two volunteers what I thought about stopping the meetings until school was back in session. As difficult as it was for me to say, (control freak that I can be at times), I said it was up to them since it was their time they were donating to the group.
I wanted to persuade them to keep the group running. We never know when a newcomer may come along. I wanted to tell them to send out texts to those we haven’t seen letting them know we were thinking about them. I wanted to ask what kind of outreach they were doing to maintain attendance. But, I didn’t do any of that. Those were things I chose to do and I shouldn’t expect them to do the same.
As my favorite saying goes, “A high expectation is a premeditated resentment.” I needed to lower my expectations and let the meeting go. If it’s meant to start up again in the fall then it will. If not, I am happy with the work I put in and those who have helped me on my journey.
Of course, that doesn’t mean I won’t still miss them. I’ll just have to find another anon meeting to attend.
Have you ever had something you loved end abruptly?
I saw this posted on Facebook the other day. It gave me a good chuckle until I realized just how many people need these explanations...including myself on some days.
I’ve been steadily making progress on editing my book.I think I’ll be done with first round of edits this month.I also reserved some time for the beach last week.It was the perfect day to sunbath.Not too hot or humid and a light breeze to keep us from roasting.
Hurricane Arthur made the riptide too strong to enjoy the water, as several people found out. They had to be rescued when the current pulled them too far out to swim back. Because of the quick response of the police and EMS, they got back to shore safe and sound. A big thanks to those who keep us safe at the beach and in our community.
We returned to the beach with the dogs after the storm passed. Even caught a belated Fourth of July firework show while we were there. One of my pooches kept trying to dig up the crabs from their hidey-holes but the others were well behaved. If the weather holds up, I may hit the beach before the rain settles in for the rest of the week. Did you ever witness a rescue? Get to see any cool fireworks over the holiday weekend?
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Normally, I whine and complain on IWSG day. Not this time though. I’m in a great place with my work-in-progress. I’m still editing, but man, is it fun!
Wait. What? Did Elsie just say she’s having fun editing?
Yes. Yes, I did. There’s something about fine-tuning the storyline, bringing all the little details together, and even catching the occasional dropped word that’s a ton of fun for me. It takes away my annoyance at looking for grammar mistakes. Lord knows I’ve got a ton.
I changed the way I edit and am so glad I did. Originally, I printed out the entire manuscript and attempted to comb through it, marking it up with a literal red pen. What a freakin’ mess that was. Once I decided to edit it on the computer, wow, editing seemed like less of a chore. I am able to get chunks of it done in one sitting instead of a page or two.
I may actually have this bad boy edited sooner than I thought! And, that truly excites me and keeps me on point.
Have you made any changes in the way you edit your WIPs? Have any good tips to help me along? I’d love to hear them.
Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!