X is for X-Rated
X is for X-Rated. Don’t get your hopes up. Ain’t gonna be no naked chicks here today. Or any other day for that matter. Sorry, folks.
Instead, I’d like to briefly talk about the causes of sex addiction. It has nothing to do with sex. It’s all about emotions, or rather the inability to connect emotionally.
Dr. Patrick Carnes is the man when it comes to sex addiction. He literally wrote the book, the first book (five total) about sex addiction, coined the term sex addict, and is the executive director of the Gentle Path program at Pine Grove Behavioral Institute. What did he say when asked if the addiction was about sex?
“No, but that's the mistake people often make. It's really about pain … or escaping or anxiety reduction. It's a solution.”
Sure, sex addiction has lots of X-Rated components surrounding it. There’s triple x movies, porn sites, masturbation, and many other X-Rated aspects, but those are not the root of the addiction. They are the symptoms. And, just like with any other addiction they can start out harmless, and if not treated, grow out of control.
Why sex? Why not drugs, alcohol, or overeating? Not surprising, many SA do drink, take drugs and eat to excess, in addition to turning to sex to fulfill the empty void inside them. Many of them come from broken homes. A large percentage of SA are sexually, physically and/or verbally abused when they are young. Even more, like my husband, come from homes where being emotionally neglected rather than nurtured are the norm.
It is my personal belief that all of these addicts share one common theme - the need to feel accepted and loved. The reason I turned to drugs when I was a teen was because I felt rejected by my mom. Through no fault of her own, my mom wasn’t able to nurture me properly. In turn, I wasn’t able to nurture myself, so I choose drugs to numb my pain.
I think sex addicts are emotionally more damaged than I ever was. I could be completely off base. I’m not a doctor. I just speculate like one on Blogger.
How about you? Do you speculate like a doctor on your blog? Did I make sense with this post? I crammed a ton into this tiny post. I may have to visit this topic outside of the A-Z Challenge.
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