Friday, April 25, 2014

"V" is for Verbs: A-Z Challenge

V is for Verbs

Fine. 

Here’s my confession. 

I watch Dr. Phil. 

There, I said it!  I watch Dr. Phil.  I don’t always agree with what he says, but I watch his show.  He’s a pretty insightful guy even though he doesn’t quite acknowledge sex addiction. I’ve only seen a guest on his show be referred to as a sex addict by him one time (not by their partner, that happens often). Dr. Phil recommended a treatment plan including a twelve-step program for that dude.  But, that’s okay.  It’s not in the DSM yet.  Yet.  So, I understand his hesitancy to use the diagnosis yet.  Yet.

One my favorite Dr. Phil sayings is, “I’m going to put verbs in my sentences when we come back.”  It means, “I’m done listening to all the bullshit you’ve been tossing around.  It’s time to take some action around this joint!”

And, he does.  He lays out a plan of attack, instructs his guests what they need to do to get their lives back in order and sends them on their way.

It’s a great way to live my life too.  I used to desire a healthier marriage.  I took action and went to counseling and S-Anon meetings.  My marriage is better as a result.  I used to want to write a book. I sat my butt in front of my laptop and started typing. I finally wrote that book.  I wish I could be physically healthier, so I’ll stir some verbs into my life and see what happens.  I’m thinking I’ll end up right as rain again.  Cause I know I didn't accomplish jack while I sat around wishing stuff was better.

What verbs have you added to your life?

Side note:  It's my 200th post.  I feel like I should celebrate somehow
ETA:  Another side note:  Another migraine today…I'll pop by when I'm feeling better.
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40 comments:

  1. Two hundred posts - well done.
    We can wish things were better and think about doing things to get there, but without taking action, it doesn't matter. Writers who say they just don't have time to write puzzle me. Why not? Just make the decision you're going to write and then set aside time to do it. If it matters, you'll take action to make it happen.

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    1. I was surprised I reached 200 posts. It caught my eye when I hit publish yesterday. Pretty nifty. I think we all have time to do the things we truly want to do. Its a matter of cutting out the things that are unnecessary in our lives - watching television, playing on the computer, just the fluff. Once we figure out what that fluff is for us, I think we free up tons of time.

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  2. Hi Elsie,

    Good grief, look who arrived first. How does Alex do it? He must have clones!

    You took action, my dear friend. You understood you had choices. Embracing positive resources conducive to your mental and physical well being is certainly the way forward. You've written that book. This is testimony to your passion for the written word. Some positive action verbs are resonating within your thoughtful post.

    Congrats on your 200th post.

    Thank you, Elsie.

    Gary

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    1. Hi Gary!

      Alex is almost always the first one here. I don't know how he does it, but I'm with you, I think he has clones. Or, maybe he owns Blogger? Goggle? The Internetz? Thank you for all your kind words. They mean a lot to me and keep me inspired on the days I just want to throw in the towel!

      Be well, my friend!!

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  3. You should try and do something for the 200th post but just acknowledging it is probably enough for now. I don't know if we even get Dr Phil over here but I have heard mixed things about him. If he's really helping people then I don't see too much of a problem. Actually doing things is one of the hardest things for me to do I think. Even when you start using verbs and you come up with all these plans, you still have to stick to them.

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    1. Hmmm, I wonder what I could do? I could do some kind of giveaway but I don't have anything to give away. Maybe a free copy of my book? Hmm, it's not finished yet. I know, I'll give away a free subscription to my blog!!! That there is priceless!! hehehe Sticking to the plans is really hard, Mark. It's harder than formulating the plan itself. That's when good ol' determination comes in to play.

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  4. Wish in one hand ... _____ in the other, is a sayin' round these them parts.

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    1. I cannot tell you how many times that saying has been said in my house. My hubby and I disagree about it though. He says it's "wish in one hand, spit in the other" Um, I don't think so. At least not where I grew up! haha

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    2. We say put a wish in one hand and a bird in the other and see which hand fills up first. Some sayings seem to be universal, but with slight differences.

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    3. We do the see which fills up faster too. So I close my eyes and wish as much as I can because I don't want to wash poo off my other hand.

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  5. Congrats by the 200 post dear amazing!
    I saw dr Phil times ago but is not in our cable sadly because I love to see sometimes:)

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    1. Thanks! Can you believe you guys put up with me for so long? Happy Anniversary today, my friend!!

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    2. Thanks dear finally we ate arabian food here at home with thr twins,
      was fun:)

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    3. That sounds perfectly yummy! Don't think I've ever had Arabian food.

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  6. I had a clever comment but I can't remember it -- too busy trying to think what might go in the blank in The Happy Whisk's comment!

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    1. Whisk has a way of distracting me with her clever comments too =P

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    2. lololol. I'm sorry, I tried not to say poo or sh*t on your blog. But there you have it.

      Happy Saturday, Girls.

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  7. I admit I am not a fan of Dr. Phil. I saw a few episodes of his show a few years back...about brides who wanted huge, lavish weddings and he chastised them. Then there was a Dr. Phil special that documented his upcoming son's wedding and it was like a slightly smaller version of something Buckingham Palace would have thrown. I was disgusted at the money being spent and how he felt it was appropriate to have a TV show about it. Hypocrite city. I realize that everyone was in agreement in Phil's case vs. the guests' cases, but still. Throwing that kind of cash at a one day party makes me sick.

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    1. I suppose if you have the money to throw a lavish party, you have every right to do it. If you don't have the money, then don't complain when your lights don't turn on at the end of the month because you choose to spend it on something else…or when your wedding gown doesn't arrive on your special day because you had to have a flock of doves too. Me, I never saw the reason for such an expense for myself.

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  8. My mom watches Dr. Phil EVERY DAY. And I watch sometimes, listen sometimes, and try to tune out sometimes. But, I know just what you are saying... You know he is DONE when he says he is using verbs so that there will be no misunderstandings about where he sits. One of the things that makes me crazy about that show is how the people just yell at each other, interrupt, refuse to hear the other person... I suppose that is all real-life happening, but it drives me batty. And I listen to some of those cases and I think, "This is a boundary issue." And so often, it is. So many of our issues with others are one or more people not creating boundaries, not respecting the boundaries of others, not even understanding what boundaries are. AND I think that is not mentioned is for the same reason as the sex addiction diagnosis... it is not a part of the vocabulary that is currently in vogue. But I think it will be... (for both)... eventually.

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    1. I think some of that may be part of the show aspect, where he'll allow them to talk over each other for a few minutes but thankfully, he doesn't let it go on for long. I hate that crap. He does mention crossing boundaries every so often because I'm big on boundary crossing and love when he discusses it. My favorite thing about him is when he takes out his Texas attitude. He's just finished being polite and is like, okay doke, I'm done here folks!

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  9. 200 you say, almost the amount of posts the cat is ahead at his bay lol congrats

    Yep, we have to get of our ass and do something about it, as things won't heal themselves or whatever we want if we don't.

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    1. It wouldn't surprise me at to know you were that far ahead cat! I think I'm hot stuff right now because I'm ahead…no, wait, I'm not. I was ready for today. Now I have to get ready for Monday!!! Aaahh!!!

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  10. Congratulations on 200 posts!!!

    I've seen part of one episode of Dr. Phil and that's not enough to form a valid opinion about him. He seems to get good numbers and people say he helps them, so his show must be doing some good.

    When it comes to most things I'm a doer and like to get cracking. I have rules for myself like, "You're not allowed to have fun until you get x,y,z done. However, there are other things I'll work pretty hard to avoid and most of them involve talking about things that make me uncomfortable.

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    1. Talking about things, difficult emotionally charged things, can be especially hard for some people. I think the only reason I don't have a hard time with it (most of the time) is because of how my dad raised me. He wasn't afraid to sit down and have family talks, put everything on the table and discuss. My mom kept things inside until she exploded so I had a bit of both in them for a long time. Now, I have mostly my dad, I think.

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    2. Elsie... My blog has become my journal... I started journaling the day my Dad had his stroke. I knew he wasn;t going to survive... the family dynamics that I have captured... wow...

      Interspersed with the nonsense that I like to write, are the more hurtful times of my Life... I do have a private blog journal for things for which I want to have a record... but would prefer others not to see...

      I am one of those that likes to talk through Life Events... having someone with whom to share such events is important...

      ~shoes~

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  11. Action drives us. Verbs take us there. :)

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  12. The verb I want to add to my life is "sleep."

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    1. Me too, Andrew. But, I have a garden that needs some TLC.

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  13. Sex addiction isn't in the DSM?? well, why the heck not?

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    1. Good question. I don't know. I don't know.

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  14. 200 posts is awesome, congratulations!

    I'm not really a verb person...it's why I surprise people so much when I actually do make a decision and do something, like this month when I moved, they don't quite know how to take it, LOL...

    I hope you get rid of the migraine soon, I hate those miserable awful things! :(

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    1. Migraines have been plaguing me like crazy this past couple of months. Grr! Thanks for the well wishes.

      How is your move going? Are you finished unpacking? I hope you're on the mend and healing after your fall.

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  15. The one Dr. Phil comment that I like... when you know he is exasperated with someone... is when he asks, '... and how is that working for you?'

    I tend to use this with my students who ask for help... I offer suggestions, which they refuse... and then come back whining... I ask them if they remembered what I suggested.. and then I ask them to tell me why they decided not to follow my suggestion... and then I come back with the question above...

    ~shoes~

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    1. I give you kudos for working with kids. I have three of my own and the teen years are the worst. They think they know everything about everything. It took awhile for me to realize if I stopped trying to tell them over and over again, eventually they learned to come to me with questions. It saved me lots of fights!

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  16. Good for you that you are smart enough to realize that you need to make things happen in your live and for trying to work on your marriage and not just walking away.
    I need to put some verbs into my exercise plans! I will follow your example.

    http://katloveswriting.blogspot.com

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