Monday, April 21, 2014

"R" is for Reaching Out: A-Z Challenge

R is for Reaching Out
From Bing!
Years ago, I watched a commercial that made me feel like a jerk.  Yes, I’m easily influenced by sappy television commercials.  They sucker me in all the time.  Don’t judge.

It was a commercial for Wounded Warriors.  (They assist military vets returning from conflicts overseas.)  It’s no secret my husband is a retired vet so these commercials hit home.

I donated to Wounded Warriors every few months and felt all gushy inside knowing I’d done some small part.  But, really, I felt like a jerk for not doing something more. Then it hit me.  I could reach out to someone in need with a personal gesture.

They sent thank you cards with the receipt of a donation but I never took time to fill one out.  This time, I did.  I reached out and personally said “thank you” to a vet.  Now with each receipt, I send out the card.

Bing!
This made me realize I could do the same thing for others in my situation.  Rather than be a bump on a log at my S-Anon meetings, scared what others thought about what I shared, I opened my mouth and spoke.  Those words led to nods of understanding from those around me. 

In turn, it helped me pick up the phone to see how people were coping.  Those phone calls helped me too.  It made me understand I wasn’t in this crazy disease of sex addiction. 

The calls allowed me to live outside my own needs.  Reaching out helped my recovery process.  It became a circle of giving and receiving, leaning on someone other than myself.

I’m amazed how much I gain from reaching out and helping others.

Do you reach out to anyone in need?
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This post is part of the A-Z Challenge.  Wanna see more?


47 comments:

  1. You found the secret - when you focus on others, your own problems diminish.
    When we give of ourselves, we find peace. We do something of value for others. That's why Jesus said the greatest among you will be the greatest servant.

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    1. I think it's important to remember it's not all about me. It can be hard to remember sometimes when things are rough. Or even when things are going well in this age of instant gratification and selfles. EGO = Easing God Out and He wants us to help others.

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  2. The main time I reach out to people is when I know they need help, but they won't admit it. Outside of that I'm not much of a reacher outer. That just seems a little surprising to me. I'm glad it really worked out for you though.

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    1. I'm surprised, Mark. I see you as someone who would reach out to others all the time. I think you probably do it a lot more than you realize. It probably comes quite naturally for you.

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  3. It takes a special person to reach out to others. I am not that kind of person. I'm usually the guy you find face down in the mud waiting for someone to pick me up.

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    1. I'd pick you up, Dan. Maybe. Yeah, I guess I'd pick you up. haha

      You reach out to others through your blog, Dan. I think you reach through your writing there and on Facebook - keep it up!

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    2. Yep...I'm reaching alright. Reaching for a good topic to write. Reaching for the motivation to write. lol

      And I bet you'd leave me face down in the mud once you see how dirty I am!

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  4. nice....while we work internally we should always be reaching...or we end up on an island...this is cool...and touching the lives of those around us...a little personal thank you....it goes a long way...

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    1. I think if we stop reaching up and outwards we will become stagnant on that island. That's no place to be - it's too isolating.

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  5. I try to whenever I find out someone's in crisis or whatever. But I rarely reach out to people....I try to suck it up and soldier on alone. I mean I might need to talk out a problem and I do reach out for some hand holding, but other than that I'm like, 'oh no thanks I'm fine, it's covered...'

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    1. I had a hard time reaching out to others for a very long time. I didn't want people to think I was weak. Now, I'm getting better about asking for help and helping others allows me to that more freely.

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    2. Good point by Jojo... I think helpers have great difficulty asking for help...

      I know that I do...

      ~shoes~

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  6. You're a good person girl, I should do something myself!

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  7. When we give to others, our own problems diminish. And there are always those who need some support. Just talking to someone can make a huge difference in his or her life.

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    1. I think it helps keep things in perspective when we reach out to others. Things in our lives don't seem quite so difficult when we help others. You're right, just a phone call can make a world of difference to someone.

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  8. Great advice, Elsie. There is always someone who is worse off than you are (I am).

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    1. I agree. I think it's a matter of being able to see the forest for the trees.

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  9. For all that life throws at us, it seems we are happiest when we are helping others.

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    1. So true, David. I always seem to feel better when I know I've done something for someone else.

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  10. We reach out to people through the blog. It's actually a pretty great medium to help others... which is still weird to me, since we both portray ourselves as drunk, goofy underachievers who swear too much and hate everything.

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    1. It's always cool to learn just how much you two do through your blog. I was guilty of thinking you guys were just these drunken goofballs but then I got to really know you and found out just how wrong I was…you don't drink *every* day. haha

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  11. I don't know if I reach out as often as I could, but when I do I usually spend a few hours of time that I never end up regretting.

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    1. I've only had a couple of times that I've regretted reaching out. Or, more aptly, the person didn't respond so it was really a lesson learned for me.

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  12. What? We have to help others? Pfffft the cat doesn't have time for that. Others can scoop his poop and do everything else, but him help? never lol

    Helping can give you a sense of peace in a way indeed. I do when I think I can. But best advice ever, never take advice from someone who hasn't been through what you've been through. So I keep my ten cents to myself many a time.

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    1. "Never take advice from someone who hasn't been through what you've been through... That's what I call sound advice.

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    2. The cat thinks he's just so supreme because Pat scoops his poop. What kind of rap is that?

      It's wise not to advise when you haven't walked in those shoes. Also, never give advise against another person. I've had that person come back into the person's life and then it's just awkward!

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  13. Good use of the letter R, Elsie. Keep up the great posts and enjoy them there peeps. Even if you hear a faint cry of the little buddy, Woodstock.

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    1. So, I got three large peeps. Guess how many are left. Yep. Zero. If one was Woodstock, he's now a goner! And I don't feel any guilt at all!! =P

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  14. At times, that is all it takes, right, Elsie? Reaching out and finding out that you are not alone. Beautiful post.

    ~Shailaja's latest A~Z post

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    1. Feeling alone is one of the worst feelings. Thanks, Shailaja.

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  15. I should reach out more often, Elsie. Thanks for making me think.

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    1. Sometimes it's easier said than done. It can be awkward to extend a hand for fear of rejection.

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    2. Ok Grumpy Im agree too send me something LOL

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    3. Grumpster,,, you DO reach out!!!

      ~shoes~

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    4. Elsie, ain't that the truth.... Gloria Dear, what would like me to send you.... You've got everything your heart desires... Shoes, I'm just being modest. I know, it's shocking, my friend.

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    5. Ha ! Only I want is love and friendship:)

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    6. @Gloria Dear - I was telling Professor Shoes that I can be modest, which some would think of as shocking.

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  16. I agree with you. I think we all need to reach out to others more. I think I will go send a card right now. Thanks for the idea. Hugs from Lura.... A to Z

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    1. I absolutely love that you're sending a card as a result of this post. That totally rocks, Grammy!!

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  17. I'm glad to be the newest follower to your blog. Very nice post. I love to help others, and I feel whole doing so.
    Deb@ http://debioneille.blogspot.com

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  18. You're so right, and this is a good reminder. I donate often but I don't reach out personally enough.

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  19. The human contact is so important. We often forget how lonely the world can be and when you are down you can feel it that much more.

    Brandon Ax: Writer's Storm

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  20. Im agree with you you have reason (Lura is my friend too) she is an amazing lady Elsie:)

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  21. Do you reach out to anyone in need?

    Hey you... thank you for coming by my place...

    Now, to answer your question, YES, I do... that may be a great fault of mine. I teach at a small university and I DO reach out to students that need help... many times, it's nothing more than just listening to their problems, but sometimes, I have answers for them...

    I help them with resumes... letters of introduction... I help them with interview concerns...

    I think that regardless of our age, we all need help sometime... we all need someone to listen... that is willing to listen..

    Thank you for your kind words at my place...

    ~shoes~

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