Thursday, April 17, 2014

O is for Opportunity: A-Z Challenge

O is for Optimistic Opportunity
From Bing

I’m usually an optimist.  When things appear bleak, I try to find the silver lining no matter how elusive it may seem.

When I quit my job because of migraines, I looked at it as a chance to focus solely on my health. After my first husband was killed, I took the opportunity to further my education.  Don’t worry, I mourned  ;)    Following my current husband’s sex addiction diagnosis, I blogged.  Writing was therapeutic and I wanted to let others know they weren’t alone on their journeys.  I found my silver lining.

In the beginning, my first blog was pitiful.  It was full of gut-wrenching posts.  Each post harder to read than the last.  Then, this wonderful thing began to happen.  My writer voice perked up.  She prompted to me to write about things other than sex addiction.  The more I wrote, the better I felt.

My inner writer blossomed.

I had a golden opportunity.  I could still help others by writing about the effects of addiction but it didn’t have to always be about the disease.  It was therapeutic to shift the focus on to other topics. 

People accepted the new format of my blog with open arms.  It prompted me to start the blog you’re reading today.  My topics alternate between addiction and life in general. 

I love to laugh and I want others to laugh too.

I look at what has happened in my marriage and in my life as an opportunity.  I have been blessed with the ability to see the glass as half full again.

Are you an optimist too or do you tend to be a bit pessimistic?

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This post is part of the A-Z Challenge.  Wanna see more?










37 comments:

  1. And now you can bless others with that ability as well!
    As a whole, we look for hope. We look for understanding and acceptance. You found it, and now you can share it.
    My outlook is realist-optimist. However, my attitude is usually positive. And I hope that comes across to others.

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    1. I think your optimism shines through, Alex. I also feel like realism is necessary to keep us grounded in, well, reality. There is a difference between being an optimist and being so far up in the clouds you can't face life.

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  2. I'm a hearty mix of both optimism and pessimism. I'm mostly optimistic when it comes to other people though. I can see a silver lining in almost everything. Or some small comfort to take away from something bad. Some people have a real hard time seeing them. When it comes to myself I tend to be a little more pessimistic. I have a hard time believing I can be happy.

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    1. I think that's true for most people, Mark. It's a lot harder to find the good when it comes to ourselves, not just in our own situations but in our qualities too. Especially if we struggle with self-esteem issues. There are countless times someone offers me a compliment and I shrug it off with a negative; "Elsie, I love that outfit." Instead of accepting the compliment with a simple thanks, I feel the need to downgrade it with an explanation, "I got it on sale at Target. It's old and cheap." Silly. Yet, I have no problem paying the same compliments to others.

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  3. I get so annoyed with people who can never find anything positive about life, who insist their lives suck because they didn't get a promotion or their significant other left them. Yes, life can have sucky moments but it's how you deal with those moments that dictate whether or not life truly does suck.

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    1. You just reminded me of a woman I worked with many years ago. Liz. Oh. My. Gosh. There was a black cloud over her head. Doom and gloom, this one. "Hi, Liz, how are you?" "My husband's an ass, my kids are jerks, I hate my job, I don't feel good. You?" Just awful. I dreaded seeing her every morning.

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  4. I am basically an optimist. However, I'm also a realist and a pragmatist so sometimes people say I'm being pessimistic which always baffles me. You don't have to be a naive Pollyanna in order to be an optimist.

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    1. I think a pragmatist has the ability to see the forest for the trees. There's nothing wrong with that. As long as it's not all doom and gloom all the time, not all Negative Nancy, I'd say it's healthy.

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  5. I prefer the term 'realist' over 'pessimist'. I was raised always being questioned and told what could go wrong so when things come up, I freak out and assume the worst will happen. That way if it does I'm prepared.

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    1. It's good to be prepared. If the weather man says there's a possibility of a hurricane, I don't assume it won't hit because the odds are with us it won't. I go out and get supplies and pray it doesn't hit. But, I'd rather be prepared, just in case!

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  6. i think it is good to show all aspects of life...we can let the struggles...the addictions overshadow everything....and that can get scary....

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    1. I agree, Brian. Letting the negativity take over in our lives will only produce unhappiness.

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  7. an optimist but life keeps convincing me in the opposite.....

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    1. It can be hard to keep your head up when life keeps pushing you under. As long as you try, Dezzy.

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  8. I alternate between the glass being half full and half empty. I KNOW that I am more likely to be negative when my migraine is beating like a jackhammer. And I am more likely to be positive when I feel better. I do try to keep my negativity to myself when I feel bad, but that isn't always possible. The people you live with always get the worst end of that deal. BUT, I know from experience that it is no fun being around someone who is always negative, so I really work at improving my attitude.

    Good for you on rolling with all of the punches so well. I think optimism goes a long way toward helping with that!

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    1. That serotonin depletion is such a bummer on our moods. Especially after a few days of having a migraine, it sucks. I try to remember that's what's at fault and not just me being a total drag. I think it's why I lean towards watching comedies and reading blogs that make me laugh. If figure if I surround myself with positivity, it's bound to rub off and if I'm positive, my body will respond in kind.

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  9. If you don't look on the bright side, the dark will blind you. I am no perfectionist to this mantra, but life has a way of taking your life if you stay in the negativity bubble.

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    1. Exactly, David. Life can become a vacuum of negative emotions, impossible to escape from if you allow it.

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  10. I try my hardest to be an optimist, but a lot of the time my inner pessimist takes over. It is getting better, but still has a tendency to happen on occasion. I always love stopping by your place because of your optimism...I always leave smiling!

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    1. I think as we go though certain times in our lives, certain reminders, we can lean towards those negative feelings. It's hard. I have to reach out to others that are feeling more positive when I'm feeling down. That helps me feel better. Or, I help someone who is feeling worse than I am, that helps too.

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  11. Hi, Elsie, Although I'm a pessimist by nature, I tend to be upbeat.
    Sometimes, it's hard to find the bright side, but I've trained myself to think positive thoughts.
    Who wants to be stuck in the doldrums?

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    1. Hi J.L.! I'm glad you found me on this blog =) I agree, it is no fun being stuck in those doldrums and really, sometimes it takes more work to be stuck in that place.

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  12. I am doing my best to be an optimist! It's so hard some days. Especially lately. But, there's always a yin to the yang, clean to the clutter, light to the dark. Nature has a way of balancing it out. Sometimes it just takes awhile. :)
    Jamie Dement (LadyJai)
    My A to Z
    Caring for My Veteran

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    1. Hi Jai!! Good to see you again! I hope the Challenge is going well for you. It's been keeping me super busy. You've got a great point. Life really does have a way of balancing things out for us. Just when we think we can't take anymore lows, we are given a high.

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  13. I think optimism is the face of pain, and the knowledge of the reality of life, is an act of courage. I try to get there, too.

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    1. It can be such a difficult journey at times but I think if we keep striving for happiness, we are bound to achieve it.

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  14. It's great you took it upon yourself, writing is such an amazing outlet.

    I think I'm an optimist. Punch me in the stomach and I'll be glad you punched me and not vice versa. That's probably not too healthy, though.

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    1. I definitely see you as an optimist. I don't know why, but I always picture you on a beach somewhere, drink in your hand, music playing and a smile on your face.

      Um, I'm thinking it's probably not too healthy to smile when punched. But, to each their own.

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  15. Glad the voice was found, it means far less whines for all to read haha I'm optimistic I suppose as I can be positive something with suck, that count?

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    1. Just wait until the Challenge is over. I'm going to go on the biggest rant the cat has ever seen! Cat, you're as pessimist as D4 is an optimist. haha

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  16. I just keep buying proverbial lottery tickets. Whenever an opportunity presents itself, I apply for it or open a conversation about it. One in every ten is bound to work out :)

    @TarkabarkaHolgy from
    Multicolored Diary - Tales of colors
    MopDog - The crazy thing about Hungarians...

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    1. If you don't play the odds, don't bother playing, right? Thanks for swinging by. Your blogs are hilarious!

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  17. I am more of a optimist than a pessimist, I think, well I do try to see the bright side of things. what is the point of always being doom and gloom it only makes one sad doesn't it.

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  18. Always the bright side of things though life can get me down sometimes ~ Still my hubby is there to perk me up ~

    Enjoying your writing so far, wow, you are more than half way through the month, congrats on the terrific progress ~

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  19. The majority of the time I am looking for the silver linings in situations and circumstances - -We live in a world that is broken, but there is always some good to be found. No use wallowing in the mire~ Look up and find the good. I have found that a good portion of my writing tends to be more on the darker side. Interesting, huh?
    Thanks for stopping by my blog today and leaving encouraging words. I'll be back here to read your blog.
    Mary from The View from my World

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  20. I think the glass is half-full of something I don't wanna drink...

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  21. I have loved watching you get better and better as a writer. And whilst people can inspire and help you, all of this, the core of being a writer, has been inside you all along. And I'm so very happy it is. You are a writer. Keep at it.

    Big hugs.

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