Tuesday, April 15, 2014

M is for Migraines: A-Z Challenge


Migraines.

They suck.

I’ve had them for twenty-five plus years.  My daughter was diagnosed with migraines a year ago.  She just got put on her first round of preventatives.  I pray it works for her.  I don't want my life for her.

Migraines.

They suck.

I travel five hours each way to see a specialist every three months.  I had a local neurologist too. I dumped him.  He ramped up doses of medications rather than finding the reason behind the migraine.  My specialist discovered an underlying auto-immune disease that may be the cause.

Migraines.

They suck.

I take herbal supplements.  I’m on a break from prescription medications except for triptans to treat as they occur.  Some days the triptan works.  Most days they don't.  Migraines hit every other day now.  Time to revisit a preventative treatment medication again.  My liver has healed.  Maybe.

Migraines.

They suck.

Everyone thinks they know that one little tid bit of information I don’t about my migraines. They read how to CURE them.  There is no cure.  It’s okay.  They’re just trying to help.  I politely smile and nod my head in the right places.  I’ll listen to my specialist’s advice.  I pay her good money.

Migraines.

They suck.

But my life doesn’t.

Life is good.

I have a great husband.  Fantastic kids.  Live close to the beach.  I have a roof over my head. Heat in the winter.  A/C in the summer.  Running water.  Food on the table.  Money in my pocket, even if it jingles when I walk.  At least there's something to jingle.

Life is good even with migraines.

What makes life good for you?

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This post is part of the A-Z Challenge.  Wanna see more?





57 comments:

  1. I'm sorry. Can't imagine living with them. But I guess you either live with it or you just do nothing and die. Life is too precious. Just keep focusing on the good things.Because life is good!
    And I have the blessings of family, friends, a job, a home, my guitar, my writing, and my Lord and Savior.

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    1. There is a saying out there, "I've got migraines but they don't have me." I think that's very appropriate in my case. I live each day that I'm pain-free to the fullest. I'd be an idiot not to!

      I can't wait to get over to your blog - MEGADETH again???!!! W00t!

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  2. Life is good when I get out for my daily walk at the moment, since I'm feeling bogged down. Sometimes I get visual migraines, and perhaps too much time on the computer doesn't help.
    It must be dreadful living with migraines. I hope both you and your daughter find a way out, Elsie.
    I've noted Alex's blessings, and so true - we should count our blessings.

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    1. Thank you kindly, Fanny. I need to walk more. I say I'm going to but then don't. Truly, I need to get back on my bike. The weather is getting warmer (well it was) and it's the perfect time to get out there. I hope your visual migraines aren't too disruptive. hugs.

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  3. You weren't kidding were you? Like I said...you're such an ass! lol

    And hey! I posted something yesterday but you're still calling me a "used to be blogger"...my blog isn't dead yet!

    I bet you're the reason your daughter gets migraines. I mean really, just look at what she has to put up with for a mother. That poor girl!

    I think you're just using your migraines as an excuse to be a little whiny ass and draw attention to yourself. Oh, my head hurts so bad, let me write about it so people will pity me! ;-)

    You know, I'm not sure if you've looked into it or not but I seen this new invention out that is supposed to help prevent migraines and it's getting good reviews. It's a headband that you wear and it sends electrical signals to the nerves in your brain. It is said to greatly reduce the frequency of migraines. Maybe it's something you should look into because to be quite honest, we don't want to hear about your stupid migraines!

    http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/03/13/289787263/electronic-headband-prevents-migraines-with-tiny-jolts

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    1. Yep! I'm a big ass! Just for you, Dan.

      Um, what now? How can you say your blog isn't dead when you just mentioned blogger suicide with it yesterday? Not just that, but you told us how much you hate visiting blogs, writing blogs, commenting on blogs and I think you called us all every name in the book. You're such a jerk.

      And yet, I'll miss you, Dan. Why? I don't know. Maybe it's because I know you have this great knack for writing. But, I'll take the credit for goading you into writing one more post to let us know how much you hate us all. You're welcome. See how I soak up that attention?

      I was a little hesitant about clicking the link. With you, I never know what to expect. Maybe a clown killing my turtle? But it wasn't, thank goodness. I have heard of a similar product. It's a TENS unit. I have one that I use. It's pretty cool. It's better for loosening tight muscles than anything else. I bought it at Target for thirty bucks, I think. I bet when you saw it, you thought, aww, I miss Elsie. Admit it, you did. You miss my whining!!

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    2. Dang, I forgot to mention - that poem on Facebook - beautiful Dan. One of your best. Please don't stop writing, even if you stop blogging. You're really good at it.

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    3. Maybe Dan is the attention whore? Going all poor pitiful me at his shore lol Come see me, it doesn't mean much to me anymore. I can't visit many, wha wha wha living up to the worqueendan name hahaha

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    4. I just like to get on here and stir up the hornets nest. Seems to be working just fine since you all seem to be taking offense to all the name calling! Score one for me! Yet another successful blog post!

      And it wasn't so much blogger suicide as it was weeding out the trolls. I don't need a big audience, only genuine readers. No room for fake poeple in WD's world...you all know how I like to keep it real!

      And I know of a particular cat that could use another haircut!

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    5. Pffft have to catch the cat first

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    6. I can't stand the trolls. I'll follow you if you follow me! Those people drive me nuts! So, I guess this means I can look forward to more posts from WD, huh? That's good to know.

      Hopefully, you'll skin the cat slowly!

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    7. Oh yeah, that I can agree. You have these idiots that come and say "followed" and then expect you to follow them back. Or the ones that come and just follow you, not saying a word and then a week later, whine that you didn't follow them back. Pfffffft to that. If I like, I follow, if I don't because the writing is small, you blither on for 10 pages or you have stupid arse disquis, to a lesser extent word verification, then go piss up a rope I say haha

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  4. haha I knew what M would be at your migraine sea, you haven't whined about them for a while so it was due. The cat has the best cure ever, go roll out in the grass with the dogs, then you will smell and the migraines will run away at the stench hahaha what? That won't work?

    Yeah life can sure suck with such health crap, but I don't care what anyone says, you can fix anything, you just have to figure out what the hell it is and what causes it for sure and then it can be done, hard part is figuring it out and then finding something to fix it as in North America all they want to do is pump you full of shit and make big pharma richer. Who cares if we rot your liver, at least we fix your migraine, then in a few years we'll give you a pill for your liver and rot your kidneys, then....etc. Pffffft to them idiots I say.

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    1. You know what's funny, cat, I originally had "motives" as my topic. It was written and scheduled to post. Then, I saw Dan on Facebook and couldn't help but write about migraines. It just made me laugh. I love to push his buttons. It's sad to see him leaving Blogger but I suppose I'll have to understand.

      If it can't be fixed, it can be made tolerable. We just have to make changes - in sleep, eating, exercise - whatever the case may be. The least they could do is give me stuff that makes it fun to be in pain, but nooo, they say I get them to often, I'd become addicted. The bastards!! haha

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    2. haha yeah we have to adjust indeed and those not willing to adjust end up in a ball or 6ft below. Guess you will have to save motives for another day. Pffft drama worqueendan isn't going anywhere.

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    3. Maybe I can blend in motives with migraines. That would make Dan real happy!

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  5. I am plagued by frequent headaches....some which border on migraine. I think I only have had a handful of true migraines in my life. I was always wondering if I was having an aneurysm b/c they say the pain is so massive with those. I know mine are now hormonal as they occur after that time of the month. Oh how I long for menopause.

    What makes life good for me? My amazing partner, my friends and stepchildren, dogs, crafting....beachcombing....

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    1. I used to say the same thing - I couldn't wait for menopause. Then I had a partial hysterectomy. Nothing changed so I guess I have to wait for the "real" meno to arrive. I'm with you on beach combing. My daughter and I went the other day. It was so much fun!!

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  6. I know well migraines a d headaches dear Elsie.
    And I suffer by many years too.
    The funny after we come to live to countryside I can see reduce tbr frequency of migraines.When I go to the besch is wonderful for me too!
    But I know mine is nothjng besided your migraines dear.
    My life is good because I have a lovely house.my twins and my parents.
    I have my hubby that is not easy but is a good man.
    I have my faith and feel God love us and is the most important.
    Xo

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    1. I'm so sorry you go through the same thing I do, Gloria. My heart aches for you. I'm glad you hold on to Faith. It's so important. My kids bring me so much happiness too. I have lived in various parts of the country and nothing has really changed. The older I get, the more migraines I get. But, This To Shall Pass =)

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    2. Did you know Esperanza suffer migraines too?
      Im really sad for her because I know how is!
      (The curious You know she is adopted:)
      xo

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  7. family def makes life better for me as well
    also the ability to get away with myself a bit.
    the mountains, trails.

    migraines do suck. glad i do not have them.

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    1. I need to walk trails. We have a bunch of trails here in our local parks. My son goes all the time when he's home. I need to join him!

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  8. Sorry you still have them. Tim gets them as well. They do suck. Though we have found something that works for him, and now he gets them rarely. But it took what felt like forever to get them to slow down to barely.

    Hope you find your barely to none and same for your daughter because migraines really are the worst headache out there. Terrible things. Just awful.

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    1. I totally forgot Tim gets them. I'm glad he found something that works for him. That's fantastic news! Rare is good, very, very good!! Thanks for the well wishes. I'm sure it'll happen for me too. I'm praying my daughters stay manageable too.

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    2. Sending good thoughts your way. Hope your daughter gets them to be gone or at least manageable.

      Just terrible thing to have to deal with.

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  9. The barometer dropped out here. Rain again. And I woke up with a MIGRAINE. Again.

    People mean well when they tell you about things that they have read. And I sometimes will check into those things. I refuse to accept that this is My Life from hereon out. I do know that some things make it better... like not eating processed foods, eating more greens, getting enough sleep, going to bed at the same time every night, when my migraine clicks on and doesn't click off looking at what stressful thing in my life is going on (there usually is one), and then working on understanding it and letting it go. But... the rain. I just don't know what I can do about that one!!!!

    Hang in there.... from one migraine sufferer to another.

    Also, do you find yourself exhausted on those days you do feel okay???? Because I know I do. I have saved up A HUGE LIST of things to do from when I was down for the count. At the end of the day... I am whipped.

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    1. That blasted barometer got me too. I took a Frova about fifteen minutes ago. I usually get the migraine ahead of the rain. I had it yesterday, it went away then came back again. I've got the windows open and it smells so good in here!! I go to bed the same time (within the hour) and wake up the same time every day. I'm such a bore! =) But, if that's what it takes, then so be it.

      As far as being exhausted, it depends on the migraine I had. If it was mild, I do pretty good the next day. If it was severe, I limit my activities. If I don't, I end up with another migraine. I find that I used to push myself a lot more. I wanted to cram everything I missed into the next day but then I realized the only person expecting me to do it all was me. I lowered my own expectations of myself and am healthier for it. Not sure that made sense? =)

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    2. Actually, that makes a lot of sense. People who don't have migraines don't realize how important "routine" and pacing become to keeping your balance. I feel like a great deal of my life is spent in "Preventive Mode." If I do this and this and this... well, maybe I won't get a bad migraine. ha! It's crazy.

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    3. I'm glad you understood, Robin. Sometimes I have such high expectations of myself that I have to remember to lower them. That helps keep the balance in my life. Routine is very important. Especially in the sleep department. Being off by just an hour - ugh!

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  10. I'm so sorry...Migraines are awful. I see a lot of clients who suffer from them, and I've heard from all of them about the endless cycle of doctors, meds, and pain, with no answers in sight. Someday I have a lot of hope that there WILL be a cure. In the meantime, hang in there.

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    1. Clients? Now I need to dig into your blog and see what you do other than write. It can be an endless cycle. Especially with the meds. I was telling my hubby last night, it's been over sixty days since I've taken a preventative. I don't remember the last time I've gone that long. Probably years. But, it's time to find a new one cause this every other day nonsense has to stop. I have a beach that's calling my name!

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  11. I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter has migraines now. I was wondering about that not too long ago, if it is familial. It has to be hard for you as you know just how bad it can get and how hard it is to struggle against the pain. I hope that by the time she grows up, they've found a real answer and she can live a pain free life.

    What makes life for me is the simple things. Family, friends a sunny day and a pretty flower will pretty much do it. Sweaty, shirtless men working on a sunny day makes me happy to. It's like sprinkles on the ice cream cone of life.

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    1. Yep, it's hereditary. Poor kid. Junior had them at one point too but he may have grown out of them. Males can do that. Lucky bastards. When she was diagnosed last year, oh my gosh, Anne, I fell apart. I felt this tremendous guilt for passing it on to her. Oddly, it was her daddy that made me feel better. He said I passed along so many other great things to her (he listed them in his email) that I needed to stop focusing on the bad. I kept that email to remind me it wasn't all fire and brimstone. I'm hopeful she'll take to this preventative and never have to switch.

      Your list is perfect. It speaks of someone who understands difficulty. It's funny, people who have suffered usually appreciate those smaller things in life. Although, I do ask that the shirtless man not have eaten too many ice cream cones to make him attractive to me.

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    2. Yep, I'm a lucky bastard! I used to get migraines when I was a kid. I would curl up in a ball, bang my head on the floor, squirming around in pain. But I grew out of it and now I only experience hangovers.

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    3. I had them with all my crap too, so I know how painful they are, thankfully they went away. Can I have shirtless women instead please?

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  12. You are doing the challenge? And migranine for M. Hmm. Hope you feel better and they have no cure you say. It is hard Elsie.

    working Dan is source of your migranines. Did you try turtle soup?

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    1. I would like to think so! A thorn in your side!

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    2. Yep, mamtc, I'm one of the wacky people doing the Challenge and I'm an assistant too. I've lost my mind this year!

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  13. Migraines definitely do suck! We think my youngest is having migraines. She's only 6 so it's hard to tell, but we know that her headaches are miserable, usually accompanied with nausea and vomiting.

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    1. Oooh, Tamara, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. Mine was getting headaches when she was fairly young but they were so few and far between I think I was in more of a denial mode about them being migraines. I pray yours doesn't have them.

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  14. Oh how I hate, "have you tried..." I hope they find a way to make your pain more manageable.

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    1. I know you can relate to me on this one, Frank and I'm sorry that you can.

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  16. They definitely suck and unfortunately there's not really much one can do about them.

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    1. Nope, just got to take meds and hunker down

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  17. I had a close friend who went through migraines. Wouldn't wish 'em on Harry Reid.

    Well, anybody BUT Harry Reid...

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    1. hahaha - I can think of a few more names to add to the list. Pelosi comes to mind. No, Elsie, no! That's mean. But, the evil thought still crossed my mind.

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  18. They suck but I love how you count your blessings specially living near the beach ~ I would love to trade places with you, smiles ~ Have a good day Elsie ~

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    1. Grace, I truly want to say something sweet like, "I'd trace places with you" but, it's just not true. You're in a frozen place right now. While it's 30 degrees out right now, I still have the beach not to far away =P

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  19. Yes migraines suck, I have a shocking headache today and that sucks not a migraine just a rotten painful headache, also I would love it if I could follow your blog via email, I would get here more often can you look into adding a follow via email option please

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    1. Jo-Anne! It's so good to see you! It's been so long! How are the grandkids? I need to pop by your blog. I will add an email feature right now. Thank you so much for stopping by and I hope you're feeling better soon!!

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  20. You have my sympathy. I've suffered from migraines all my adult life and for the most part I have just been fobbed off by the doctors. Luckily a new doctor started at the surgery and he listened to me and ... it's taken years ... but I now have the correct medicine to control them and life is good. I wish the same for you.

    Eileen @ In My Playroom (also doing the A to Z Challenge)

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    1. I am so happy to hear a doctor finally listened to you. I'm sorry it took so long, but I'm glad it happened. Sometimes it just takes that right combination of meds and the right doctor to find them and it makes all the difference in the world. I'm confident I'll find it too. Thanks!!

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  21. I honestly can't relate to migraines. The most I could is when I got my wisdom teeth pulled and had such a bad side-effect headache I cried myself to sleep.

    Music makes life good for me. For the past month or so I've been listening to the entire contents of my iPod in alphabetical order. I'm at Led Zeppelin right now. Guess who's happy as can be?

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