A is for Addiction
“Read this, Elsie,” the counselor said.
I read the sheet of paper he handed me and knew immediately this counselor wasn’t a good fit for someone in my position. The paper was titled, “How To Move On After Betrayal.” It went on to describe the healthy ways to leave your partner after they committed adultery.
This counselor, just like the three before him, just didn’t get it. Sure, my husband had an affair. In fact, he had multiple affairs – online, through a webcam, on the phone, and even two in person – but it wasn’t because he was a sex craved manic who didn’t care about his wife and kids.
Nope. Quite the opposite. It was because he cared so much about our marriage that he had affairs.
I know what you’re thinking, “Elsie, that makes no dang sense! If he loves you so much, why’d he run around on you?”
Because he’s a sex addict.
My kids and I were the first real family he had and it freaked him out. The seeds of addiction that were planted in childhood came to fruition once we got married.
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Rather than kick him to the curb, I chose to stay by his side while he walked on his path to sobriety. It’s been a rough but rewarding journey. I’ve learned so much about myself over the last three years. And, our marriage has been completely transformed. We’re not just physically intimate; we’re emotionally intimate too.
I’m now at a point in my recovery from his addiction, that I can truly say I’m grateful it happened. If it hadn’t, I’d never have taken a good look in the mirror and made the improvements I needed to make.
I did find a counselor who didn't advise me to run. He said, "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater then recommended a specialist. Thankfully, I found that specialist and she rocks! How awesome is that?
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