Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Award Free Blog


“You are such an ingrate.”

“Wow, that is so rude!”

“What’s the big deal?  Just take it!”

“Um, yeah, you are such a bitch. I’m never visiting your blog again!”

These are just some of the thoughts I feel I may evoke when I announce I have decided to make my blog an Award Free zone.  It’s not because I don’t appreciate being recognized because I most certainly do.  Look how excited I was when Dan put me in his Game of Throne series, or when Pat made an avatar of me, or when I received the Man Card – can you say uberly overjoyed?  That’s me.  Uberly Overjoyed.

Receiving awards once filled me with excitement.  I couldn’t wait to post it on my blog, answer all the questions, but always hesitated when it came to tagging people and passing the excitement along.  Then the dread set in. What if they didn’t want to be tagged and make a post like I did?  Soon, I began to break the rules and not pass them along at all, freeing anyone of the “obligation” of the award.

Now, I've cut back on my blogging time and I no longer post every day. I’d rather spend that time writing about things I find therapeutic for me (how selfish!), helpful to others, or amusing…at least to me, then figuring out ways on how to manipulate an award so I don’t feel awkward receiving it and not passing it along.

Let the name calling begin (okay, not really, I may cry and no one wants that on their conscience do they?)

66 comments:

  1. I don't see a problem, it's your blog and awards which I've had a few are very time consuming when you have to pass them on......

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    1. Phew! I'm so glad my first comment wasn't really someone calling me a bitch, thank you, Angry. I knew it was time to stop when getting one was no longer fun but a feeling of obligation instead.

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    2. You're not a bitch just because you want an award-free blog. No big deal. Your blog. Your rules.

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  2. There does seem to be tons of them nowadays, I've won my fair share, but unless they come with an actual prize (couple of 20 pound notes or some figures) I'll just forget them!

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    1. That would be awesome, Ray. I'd settle for a free small sundae at McDonalds. You would like figures? I never woulda thunk it ha ha ha

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  3. We've had this conversation and I've had it with other people and most of us feel the same way you do. It's a nice way to give a new blogger a leg up, but after you're established it can be counter-productive.

    I noticed your badge up there yesterday btw and thought "oh she's a horrid person" hahaha. Just kidding!! Love you ooodles and bunches!!



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    1. I was always so excited to receive them when I had my other blog because it was so new and shiny and knowing people were reading it, appreciating it, that means so much. Now, "I've lost that lovin' feelin' "

      Waaahh Waaaah - oh, you were just kidding. I love you oodlers and bunchers too =)

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    2. I did see it yesterday and meant to mention it in my email but the feckin email was so long I forgot about it.

      It does help when you're getting started though as you make new friends and it gets your blog out there. And really I think that should be its sole function-a way to help new bloggers grow.

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    3. Please, look at some of the emails I've sent you - 45 pages later you may reach the end. =P

      I agree. The awards are perfect for those bloggers just starting out. They provide reassurance and instill confidence. I'm still a tiny little blogger chick. Not even 100 followers - unlike some of my blogging buddies....

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    4. You have wonderful followers Elsie, numbers actually doesnt matter which I realised after a long time. I used to have these "one night/day followers" they would just click follow and NEVER EVER come back, whatz the point?

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  4. I still like awards. I still feel the need to be validated by people I've never met. I'll take yours, if you don't mind.

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    1. Absolutely Addman. I just put them in my photo album but for you, I will take them back out.

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  5. Well Dan himself also doesn't usually accept awards, and has photoshopped himself pissing on to them, so I think that's a little worse. I don't think you need to worry about it too much. I haven't received an award in a while, but I never passed them along and no one ever really complained. I don't think you're being ungrateful or anything. Most of those awards are pass the parcel, chain letter type things. If you want to show someone you like their blog you can just mention them, or dedicate something to them, not say "hey I like you, now tell me 11 people you like, kay?" and that's why I never passed them on. That, and, like you said, what if they didn't want them? If, however, I take the time and effort to make a personal award and I hand it out to a select few, then I would be a bit miffed if you didn't take it. But, I'm far too lazy for that, so you have nothing to worry about.

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    1. I love that post Dan did. Unfortunately, now I have an image of him peeing off his deck and then that leads to the image that kept popping up on my screen when I scrolled, his bare ass!! LOL I think comments are just as valuable as an award. I love seeing comments, knowing how people feel, seeing if I helped. That's my real award. (reward)

      If you make a personal award for me Mark, I will proudly display it on my blog forever more.

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  6. I've always felt like if you didn't want to respond to an award you shouldn't have to or shouldn't feel like you are guilty if you don't. But then again I don't have a Blog so what would I know. You will get no name calling here though.

    Love,
    Meemaw

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    1. Meemaw!!! You should have a blog - I bet you have lots of stories you could share about your kids, your grandkids...and then, we could all send you awards =PPP

      My cyber Meemaw would never call me names, she's far to classy and kind for nonsense like that!

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  7. I've always felt like if you didn't want to respond to an award you shouldn't have to or shouldn't feel like you are guilty if you don't. But then again I don't have a Blog so what would I know. You will get no name calling here though.

    Love,
    Meemaw

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  8. Um, yeah, you are such a bitch. I’m never visiting your blog again!

    Obviously I don't really feel that way Elsie haha, honestly I see no problem with this post at all. I mean sure it's nice to have an award but it can get tiresome constantly saying ten new things about yourself and having to pass it on, like with me I'm in a very clearly defined circle and would just constantly be passing it onto the exact same people over and over again which would be pointless so yeah Elsie I completely understand and anybody who doesn't can get lost because that wouldn't be fair at all, this is your blog and the content here is your choice so don't feel bad if you can avoid it.

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    1. I knew it! I just knew there would be someone...oh...never mind...you don't really think I'm a bitch.

      That is such a great point, Matthew. Having to find creative things about myself after I've already said them is kind of tough. I guess I could start making stuff up but then I'd have to remember what I said and that would prove to be difficult. LOL

      I'm hoping no one gets offended because that's not my intention at all. I think I have a great group and they will understand.

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  9. Yeah I might make my Blog an "award free zone" too . . . Then it will look as though that's why I haven't got (and have never had) any ;-)
    I'm struggling to find blogging time at the minute, and so tired of an evening with it getting dark earlier. I might have to start getting up at 5am!!
    Love to you Lovey, thinking of you often x x x

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    1. Lovey!! Good to see you. I miss your updates - I hope all is well.

      Well, you can take the button I have and link it back to the kind lady who created it and *poof* there you go, Award Free Blog =)

      I'm hating it getting darker earlier. Just more proof summer is over and it's almost time to bundle up. Grrrr.

      I get up at 5:00 but don't get out of bed until *ahem* 7:00. I hang out with Devin while he gets ready for his day.

      xoxoxoxo

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  10. yep, I stopped publicly announcing my award victories LOL after I've received a 50th or 60th one :) It is nice when they're given with love, but most of them are given just to be given away. And there's not even a red carpet giving away ceremony :(

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    1. Now there is a great idea, Dezz! Rolling out the red carpet, snapping some photos, celebs all around....hmmm....when that happens then I may change my mind.

      50-60? Now that's a lot of awards!!

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    2. I actually did the red carpet thing back in 2011 HOLLYWOOD SPY AWARDS :) It was the most glamorous event ever. It might happen again, since I'm thinking how to mark the 2,000,000 visits which will happen soon, probably next week or something :)
      http://hollywood-spy.blogspot.com/2011/01/magnificent-winners-of-glamorous.html

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    3. I just came back from your link and I love, love, love how you did those awards, Dezz. Very fun, creative and it made me smile. I'm catching up to you on my page visits...watch out! LOL ~I'm at 13,000 ha ha ha!!

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    4. I've been watching the numbers darling and I remember last year when you hit 1 million. We'll be looking for a grand celebration soon then.

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    5. Hope I will manage to throw out a nice little celebration, don't have any ideas yet :) I'll hire some strippers for us if nothing else :)

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    6. Strippers are always a wonderful idea, Dezzie! I wonder if the cast from Magic Mike is available???

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  11. Yeah the cat has gotten a ton of these things time and time again. But he now just ignores them at his den. I mean they are so damn pointless. I think I won the same damn award ten times. Whoopdi Friggin Doo is all I say to the award crew. Now if they came with money, then the cat would accept with glee. Otherwise I once again agree with thee. Hope your one eye doesn't cry to much, the tear ducts all going to one eye has to be hell hahaha

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    1. You are agreeing with me once again
      our world is truly coming to an end

      The awards come in all at once
      hard to generate posts for a bunch
      Then they come around a few weeks later
      different name, different shape, different creator
      They pull me away from what I really want to do
      and that is to torment the likes of you!

      =)

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    2. And for me
      The stop my glee
      From doing things to thee
      Like a flea on your knee
      Or if all else fails
      And I need some wails
      I'll just pelt you
      With a pringle can of poo

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    3. Cat I do the best thing I can do to show how much I appreciate you. I buy your books and review them. That beats the hell out of an award. Shit,
      I'm being nice.

      Don't hurt me Elsie!

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    4. I can't take it anymore, Anne! Here he is flinging poo at me and you're being nice. Then you called me "one eye" over at his sea...what is going on? I'm so confused GAH!!! LOL

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  12. More and more people are going the "award free blog" route, it's true. Eventually the blog award fad will fade away, I'm sure. It's already slowed down from what it used to be.

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    1. I saw a ton of blogs pop up when I did the search for the image. It made me feel a bit better about doing this myself. There is still a part of me that feels kinda crappy about it though.

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  13. Awards can distract you from the business at hand, no? Don't feel bad... we forgive you.

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    1. Yes, and I have enough distractions - what? huh? - oh, sorry, where was I? Oh, yeah, I have enough distractions of own.

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  14. Please. You blog about what you want to blog about. Yes, awards are nice, but so are the comments you get that are heartfelt and sincere. Not that I don't agree with you about being recognized being awesome, but is that why you got into blogging in the first place? If anyone dares call you a bitch because you are done with awards - to hell with them. And if they don't want to read your blog anymore, they really didn't need to be here in the first place.

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    1. Exactly, Mel - I love the interaction I have with you guys. I've learned so much from everyone and hopefully, I've helped some people along the way. I appreciate being recognized very much but it just felt strange to "have to pass it on" or whatever so it's easiest just to say no more awards. And, you're right, I began blogging to help others know they aren't alone....

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    2. You have absolutely helped me. You were there for me before you really even got to "know" me. I can't even begin to express what that has done for me. So, there's an award for you. =D

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    3. That is so kind of you to say, Mel, really. That means so much to me. Knowing that is better than any kind of award I'd receive. Thank you!!!

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  15. I pretty much did this on the music blog without letting anybody knows. Pretty amusing.. that was probably rude. You on the other hand, you're being reasonable.

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    1. I wasn't going to let anyone know either. I was simply going to remove the awards and leave it be. Then I thought, meh, I just stick a button up there letting people know I'm Award Free, then I thought even further (hate that) and figured, well, one last post about awards ain't gonna kill me. LOL Nah, you weren't being rude at all, D4.

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  16. I felt the same way when I first started blogging. The awards were a nice recognition that someone liked my blog, and it probably encouraged me to keep at it. But one day I took all the badges off my sidebar, and I think people got the hint that I wasn't really into them anymore, since they can be very time consuming. I also feel weird about singling out just a few people to pass them on to, because it means I'm ignoring everyone else who I find fabulous. Blah, I don't like that kind of pressure. :P

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    1. Me to Luanne!! It's like cracking under the pressure - who do I pick, will it make someone else pissed off at me? I don't want that. Then what if the person I pick doesn't do it and I could have picked someone who would have...aaahh...the insanity LOL It's good to know I'm not alone on this one. Thank you.

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  17. I do like the awards, but I hate answering the questions and then tagging people to pass it on to! It seems that they go around in cycles or memes. I got a whole bunch of them over the summer but it's dropped off now.

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    1. I agree, JoJo, it seems they circulate in cycles. Like someone designed a new award and all of a sudden it's everywhere you look and then you get it five times (okay, I never got one five times only twice but you know). I still think answering the questions is cool though. I like finding more about the other bloggers.

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  18. I like your style....having never received any awards i too really don't give a fig...tis the kind comments that matter..and the ones which move me on to refining my rants and scribbles
    as far as i am concerned ALL good writers who bare their souls are worthy of the award of recognition by peers...not by pretty badges..
    hope i havent offended any folk here ;)

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    1. Dan, so good to see you! I agree, I get so much from the comments and getting to know people through them. Rants and scribbles, no way...I never get that from your blog.

      I'm on the same page as you. We all deserve recognition. Especially when it comes to those soul baring posts (one coming up tomorrow LOL)

      No worries about offending anyone, Dan.

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  19. Agreed. I have a few old ones, but I just hate doing the stupid crap that comes along with them.

    Besides, they never have good ones, like "Best blog from the egotistical, thinks he is a kid, adderall taking, ambien swallowing, borderline alcoholic, thinks he's a badass just cause he goes to the gym, old creepy guy" award.

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    1. Barfly, if you can find one that says:

      "Best blog from the egotistical, thinks he is a kid, adderall taking, ambien swallowing, borderline alcoholic, thinks he's a badass just cause he goes to the gym, old creepy guy"

      You need to have that sucker proudly displayed on your blog at all times. Hell, you should just create it yourself!

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  20. I was sure I commentElsie. Btw at the begin blogging I received alot. Ofawards but I think like you or Dezz said so now I dont like when somebody give me one I say thanks and is all!
    Stilhave problem in internet tomrrow I back home:)

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    1. I was doing that too, just saying thank you, but then I felt guilty for not doing anything with it LOL What is wrong with me??? =P

      You're still lounging on the beach? How nice!

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  21. What the hell now what am going to do you were my last hope in getting an award LOL I was blogging vi carelessly thru you and your wonderful writing dammit !!! just kidding, I get it ;] I enjoy the awards but right now it is easy for me to have a few new peeps to past them on without being secretly cursed like I just did to you dammit it is no longer a secret huh??Awards were wonderful when I was hoping to have more then 25 followers so yes awards should only go to bloggers under 100 followers. And you are to wonderful to call names too Elsie I adore you and your do whatever you damn well please on your blog and I will be right there supporting YOU and your blog!!!

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    1. LMAO, Janice - I'm easy to call names because I can take it all in stride! You can give me an award and I'll just ignore it, how's that? I mean, I don't have 100 followers, so I still fit your bill. LOL But, now I know your secrets and can pass them along ha ha ha!!

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  22. You take your award and you fucking like it! lol Carry that wall wherever you go! When your back gives out, you fucking drag it! Say that wall isn't an award now, I dare ya!

    Wow! to the untrained eye one would think I was being extremely rude right there!

    I missed this post! How could that be? I read all your posts, blogcation or not!

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    1. Now, see, I don't consider the drawing you did an award - that was something you did special just for me. Not something someone passed on to you that they got from someone else and then you passed on to me with a million stipulations. I cherish that drawing and adore my turtle. That's why I'm so protective over him...so you better let him be, Dan!!!

      Now, the brick wall...well...that sucker is heavy and you keep adding bricks to the damn thing! How rude indeed!

      How did you miss this post? Easy...you're getting old, Dan. You eyesight is starting to fail you. Either that, or you just don't care about me anymore....

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    2. It must be the latter because I can see just fine! tehehe!

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    3. ....going into the corner to cry....oh no, just to plot my revenge....

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  23. "Award free blog", oh good lord,thank you , thank you. Santa is real. Santa is real. I believe. I believe.

    Reminds me of conversation b/w me and my mentor a decade back.
    Me: Hey, you got an award that is awesome, congrats!
    mentor: yeah, got this in black and white, unless it translates to something in green, nahhh - no point in getting excited. last year my award in work came with couple of pens and marriot hotel coupons, - yeah after slogging 24/7 and after spending sleepness nights in office, I got one night stay in marriot coupon.

    These blog awards are like punishment or more like "reply to this letter and send it 1000 people immediately and forward to 10000 people else your kid will get lice, your neighbour shall sing justin bieber songs all day long and your dog will start to poop a lot" - remember those ? Now this blog award is like that, answer 10 questions, make 11 questions, and tag 12 people - DONT BREAK RULES.

    Love you Elsie, love you more.

    And BTB, Dan needs spanking, he can talk about anything but not about your MY GRAIN. I have hot wax ready - What do you say??

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    1. LOL - I remember chain letters when my mom used to get them when I was a kid. She would be writing them for days and I was always so amazed she would waste her time on writing all those letters and wondered what she thought would happen if she didn't do it...would God strike her down?

      I know, can you believe Dan and his Migraine poem? It's all because he knew I am posting one on Monday to bust his balls because he hates (not really) when I talk about my Migraines. So, he beat me to the punch. So mean he is!! Hot wax is a great idea!!!

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    2. You're gonna look like Steve Carell in the 40 Year Old Virgin!! LOL

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