Tuesday, May 15, 2012

My Affirmations and Reminder





My Affirmation and My Reminder


I am strong

I am beautiful

I am confident

I feel good about my body

I am worth only the best

I am thinking loving thoughts about Devin and myself

I am unique and special

I am stronger than my triggers!!!

All is well in my world

I am calm

I am relaxed

I am at peace

I trust the process of life

I am supported and loved

I can handle this

I trust in God

I am powerful


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I didn’t cause it

I can’t cure it

I can’t control it

But I can take care of myself

By communicating feelings, making healthy choices

And celebrating myself.


(all written on index cards and kept within easy reach)
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The above affirmation and reminder is just one of the tools I use to help me get through a trigger when it rears it’s ugly head.  I thought I would share it with those of you who may be dealing with this as well.  Never forget, you are never alone.  For over a year I did very well with my triggers.  They were so seldom, I was blessed enough to almost forget how horrendous they truly are. 

I know that time will come again.  I’m already moving forward in my healing and in my recovery because I’ve got some fantastic tools at my disposal and I’ll share them in detail tomorrow.

My triggers are lessening, and yours will too.  I’m happy to see that you followed me from my old blog and I hope that you’re doing well.  Many heartfelt hugs go out to you guys.




61 comments:

  1. These are cool things - I've never really used much like that but can see the value in it. I like the reminder especially

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    1. I got the last part from a friend who was married to an alcoholic for almost twenty years. He sadly had no desire to change and she finally had to leave him. Seeing her now, she is so much happier, inside and out.

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  2. yep, self esteem and self appreciation are the most valuable things. Without it, we don't have the fuel.

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    1. Self esteem has always been a toughie for me. Not sure why. Although, now, in my 40's I have more than I did in my 20's...go figure =)

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    2. yep, I've never had it either. I think parents play the most important role here, and my took no role whatsoever... You need to feel loved in order to have lots of self-esteem, at least the healthy kind.

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    3. I agree wholeheartedly. My dad was my role model and my inspiration! My mom wasn't one for praise though and I think that took it's toll. Now I try and make sure to praise my daughter on ALL things. Not just looks, but brains too. The whole package. Plus, I give out hugs - lots and lots of hugs. Although my boys won't let me do a "real" hug anymore so I have to settle for the side hug...

      I'm sad our parents didn't take a more active part for you, Dez. No wonder you don't recognize your beauty.

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  3. Way to stay strong! Powerful words to live by!

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    1. Thank you, Dan. Hey, check your email later!

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    2. email received... now check yours! lol

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  4. It's great to remember all the wonderful things that make you. Great way to remember also.

    Love,
    Meemaw

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    1. It's a handy tool to have around and now I have it on here, and since I'm on here every day - bonus!

      xoxoxox

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  5. Good job Elsie. Sorry I haven't commented for a while but I still lurk here.

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    1. Thanks, Barfly. You lurker, you! You should know by now that I don't work on the whole comment for comment concept. I'm still going to pop over to your site and read.

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  6. That's great, positive messaging on oneself should be constant. Some people are trained against it, so even with different issues these are of benefit to human beings.

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    1. I was (maybe still am) trained against it. It's hard to praise oneself. Not sure why that is, but, at least for me, it's easier to find the good in others.

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  7. I'm glad to see that your progessing well with dealing with those things. Good for you!!

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    1. Thanks, Besercules (I'm going to shorten your name soon, I'm sure I've spelled it wrong at least a dozen times at Anne's and Pat's places, yeah, I bring you up).

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  8. Having these written on index cards and near to hand is brilliant. I can see how having something physical in your hands rather than just memorized words would help you focus and get through an episode.

    The doctors haven't called yet, we're still waiting.

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    1. Anne!!!!!!!!!!! I just emailed you!!!!!!!! <3 I'm still praying for you and yours.

      I tried to have them memorized but it was ineffective because if I was stuck in a trigger I couldn't "unstick" myself - unloop, myself. Then I went to a workshop and they mentioned this and *poof* it works! =)

      Love you, Anne!!

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    1. Thank you MaMTC =)

      It means a lot that you stopped by for this one.

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    2. No worried Elsie, it is good to learn new ways to stay string

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    3. I see your soft side showing MaMTC =PPP

      Be well!!!

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  10. Alot of I's in there. Geez, all me me me, do you really need the summer of me if it is always about you already?..LMAO

    Isn't the cat mean?..hahaha...a great way to remind yourself every time you need a pick me up, I such have index cards telling myself off when my mind starts to think about too much, maybe that would help..haha

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    1. Me, me, me!!! Me, me, me!!! How do you think I got the Summer of Me you wretched cat??

      I'm surprised your OCD mind doesn't have a separate category for each emotion - I'm sad today = stack one. I'm feeling a bit to cocky today = stack two. I secretly love dogs = stack three. =PP

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    2. LOL well with all the me's I bet you didn't get the summer of me with fleas on your knees..lol

      And if I had cards they would be stacked all nice and neat and in categories, maybe even color coded too.

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    3. Don't you even start with the fleas over in my space, cat!

      hahaha, my cards are purple =)

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    4. Don't want fleas on your knees? It is fun and must be done.

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    5. Wretched cat, spreading your fleas everywhere. Keep them at your bay!

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  11. Amen. I wish I could find awesome words like that to help me through days like today, but I can't. They just make me sadder.

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    1. You can do it, Melanie. You just have reach deep within *poof* there they are and if you really and truly can't do it, find someone who really loves and cares for you and ask them why and what they love about you.

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    2. See now...I am wondering if that one person who is supposed to support me is really doing his job. If I hear one more time that I am getting worse, I swear...yesterday was a bad day. Let's hope today is better!

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    3. I can only speak from my own experience - and not knowing what's going on in your world I would caution you not to apply to much of my stuff onto you =)

      So, with that...I off up this unsolicited advice:

      If you don't feel supported or loved by someone it sometimes can mean a couple of things; you don't feel worthy of it yourself yet, for whatever reason at the time - mine was not being able to contribute to the household financially, talk about a shot to the ego! -; the person you want to love you can't at the moment the way you want them to because they are going through some type of crap themselves and are to focused on them (the me, me, me, stage that Devin is at now due to the relapse); or the last one and sometimes most difficult - high expectations with poor communication. I was guilty of this myself. "How could he not know I need him to call me and give me reassurances or text me and tell me he's thinking of me and not flirting with some skank?" Well, duh, Elsie - he can't read your mind!!

      Not sure if any of that ramble helps. Here's to a better day, Melanie!

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  12. I love the part where you say that you are stronger than your triggers! You so are and it's important to remind yourself that ;0)

    Love that it's on index cards within your reach. And of course we followed you from your old blog...we couldn't go without a dose of Elsie ;)

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    1. I do girl, I remind myself, I am a constant work in progress right now. Damn good thing I don't have a job. I am my job =)

      I write about it tomorrow but the post is so freaking long and geared towards SA I encouraged you guys to run LMAO

      I'm so glad you followed me because I have one person I'm highlighting and guess who's next......hehehehe

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    2. The cat will never, ever be picked...but Pat...well...Pat just may get chosen if he'd give up some details about himself....

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    3. Let me qualify that better - juicy details....

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    4. Who's next?? Who, who, who??? LOL!!

      Ohh, JUICY details? Squeeze out the juice, cat! We're all dying to know!! hahaha

      P.S. Would never run! We like the long posts when you write them :) They are intriguing!

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    5. Juicy details about the cat. I like that idea.

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    6. Maybe I can do a two parter - One about the cat and one about Pat???

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    7. Oh, and Jax....not that I'm letting the cat out of the bag...but someone from NY will be coming up on my dedication list real soon....

      See, it does pay to read all my crap LMAO! NO, that's not why, it's because of your comments and stuff - you'll see...I'll be emailing you soon...

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    8. Someone from NY, pffft, you mean someone that is going to visit NY right?..LOL.....not sure there are any juicy details about the cat that hasn't been spilled yet. As far as Pat there is a ton, maybe not juicy, but there is a ton..lol..but we don't need to go there.

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    9. ooohhhh, see, juicy details are showing up already. A visit to NY is planned - without the cat I'm betting!! C'mon Pat, we want the gossip!

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    10. LOL Sry, you need to live in NY to be a home boy ;)

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    11. LOL the smog, bad drivers and tons of people, no thank you!

      Yeah no cat, he gets to stay with his uncle.

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  13. Great positive messages, I carry a notebook with mine in....

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    1. I think that's awesome that you carry positive messages with you, G. I'm very impressed!

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  14. It is important to remember who you are, and, most importantly, what you can do. Which is usually get through anything. We all have the strength to get through anything life throws at us. It will never give you something you can't handle.

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    1. Mark, you have hit the proverbial nail on the head!! I am a firm believer that God never gives you more than you can handle.

      I also feel that we can get through anything if we put our minds to it. It's a matter of determination. Yes, we may have moments of doubt and weakness, but overall, we'll get there.

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  15. Lovely messages! I think we all need that affirmation in our lives. It's wonderful that you have such a strategy as that.

    -Barb the French Bean

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    1. Thanks, Barb! I can't wait to put them back in my little black bag soon =)

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  16. Wonderfully powerful affirmations... for anyone and everyone! I needed to use a few of these in recent days!! :-)

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    1. {{{Josie}}} You've had a rough go of it the last few days! I hope the rest of this week picks up for you.

      Thank you =)

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  17. Fantastic loved this and yes you are all those things and you should never forget it...............

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    1. Thank you, Jo-Anne. Sometimes it's easy to forget in those rough moments.

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  18. Had to do a bit of reading to get some back-story.
    You really are strong.
    think I could use some of those affirmations myself. Keep 'em close!

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    1. Yikes! You read that mess and still continued on? Brave man! Congrats on your dissertation by the way. I didn't want to offer just that on your blog after your night of partying too. I didn't want it to seem, I don't know - lame? But, damn, you go!!

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  19. This reminds me of my days as a twelve-stepper, and of the law of attraction. Both of which I approve of.

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    1. I have to smile because I may be going to my S-Anon meeting today unless my last remaining member cancels. Everyone else had to call out - we have a small group. If we don't meet, I'll be working on my grueling forth step. It's something I thought I could get through quickly...ummm...no. I've been working on it for MONTHS!! I know, it's not a race, it's a journey.

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